#4005 Of Love, Business Strategy and Movie Quotes. If there’s anything scarier than exam finals, it’d most probably be falling in love. The Product and the Industry: How I Met Your Mother (HIMYM) identifies 2 types of people in a relationship: the Settler and the Reacher. Being a Reacher sucks, because your capacity can’t contain your dreams. Practically, the Settler just…well…make the choices…whether to settle down or not. In business terms, I would call the Settler an Industry and the Reacher a product. Each of them has a Life Cycle, and that goes through the stages of Intro, Growth, Shakeoff, Maturity and a Decline, having the fact known that the Product life cycle is shorter than the Industry’s (common sense duhhh…). The ugly truth? Nothing lasts forever, no matter how hard you strive. You’d be superseded by someone better, stronger, richer, nicer looking. Each person has their Unique Resources and Core Competences to achieve Sustainable Competitive Advantage (SCA), hence determines the Success of a relationship via the matching of capabilities and qualities, remarkably the SWOTs. This includes your looks, body shape, academic performance, wealth, family background etc. SWOT suggests the interaction between the Internal (an Individual’s Strengths and Weakness) and the environment (Opportunities and Threats) is essential and inevitable. Sustainability is basically both of you living with each other’s flaws and trying not to kill one another. The SFA analysis: In Business terms, they are known as the Suitability, Acceptability and Feasibility analysis, which aids decision making…to stay or to move on. Suitability refers to the matching between your strategy, objectives and operation (practically your qualities). Acceptability refers to the Risks and Returns attached. Feasibility refers to your resources in-hand and potential competitors’ response. In relationships, things would be slightly simpler, which I regard it as the ‘Single, Free and Available’ tests. An easy framework, but not many would satisfy and competition would be intense. Hence, here’s where both SFA analysis converge, but I’m gonna talk about Risks and Competitions. Risks, Returns and Diversification: A simple misconception is the perception that higher Risks yields higher returns. But not many is aware that your stake now ranges from 0% to 100%, rather than that of those playing safe. Weigh your actions and consequences, but act accordingly. Advice? 1. “He who fails to plan, plans to fail.” So take action! 2. “You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving.” In Investment, a portfolio is created to diversify risks. I’d say it’s partially true. Giving your very all to a person who just doesn’t appreciate all you’ve gone through for them hurts…a lot… On the other extreme, investing heavily in several potential relationships is either gonna get you broke (girls like shopping and coffee), or drowned in phone calls (or whatapp) or might lose em all. All evidence to the contrary, Economies of Scale does not really happen in a relationship, which means the Cost Leadership approach is not very useful (see Barney Stinson and the Playbook). This suggests that you should treat your relationship as special and sweet as possible. Treat her like a Premium product (just a metaphor) to show that what you’re capable of. Competition, Failures and Batman: Competition sucks. Bob Marley quoted that “if she’s amazing, she won’t be easy” and that’s just girls and their ego messing up with people’s life. This is the point where there’s no practical guideline on how to survive this battle in relationship. In business, things would be different as you’re playing with several variables (price, cost, profit etc.). While in Love, it’s just so subtle and powerful at the same time, just like the flutter of a butterfly’s wings could cause a tornado somewhere on Earth. I’ve been trying to stay alive this couple of years, and there’s two points of realizations: 1. it’s amazing how far you’ve gone. 2. How much longer do I have to stay like this? (I mean it’s like there’s no time limit for falling in love, and you might just get stuck forever) That includes sleepless nights where thoughts on the ‘Should-haves’ and ‘shouldn’ts’ start to haunt you. That includes lack of appetite and focus. Practically you’re a walking dead…whose heart has been stolen away. Well…it’s just worse than death…but not as bad as Batman. In case you feel shitty…In Batman Begins, Bruce lost his parents and burned down the mansion. In the Dark Knight, Rachel intends to marry Harvey Dent and then died. In the Dark Knight rises, he got his back broken by Bane and got literally broke when his girlfriend Talia turned out to be Ra’s al-Ghul’s daughter, who took over his company and tried to kill him. How he managed to endure all the pain? Because hes the hero Gotham deserves, but not the one it needs right now. So well hunt him. Because he can take it. Because hes not our hero. Hes a silent guardian. A watchful protector. A Dark Knight… (note to the girls, Boys love Batman) In case you don’t feel shitty…he’s still richer than you. (note to the boys, that’s why Girls love Batman) Taylor Swift and Ted Mosby: Despite all the long list of ex-lovers and a Blank Space, it’s still better than having your name on the Waiting List. Seriously…that’s the place where you don’t wanna end up with…like Ted Mosby. Ps. In the Season 9 (last episode), Ted finally intends to settle down with Aunt Robin at the age of 43 after Tracy’s death, because “if youre looking for the word that means caring for someone beyond all rationality and wanting them to have everything they want no matter how much it destroys you, its love! And when you love someone you just dont stop. Ever…” And that is a very rare case… And, I’m hoping that the Settlers out there could make a clear establishment on whether the Reacher should stay or to move on or move out of the way. Dwelling in the past while living in the present and having a false hope is like giving a prisoner a sunrise poster and a rope to hang himself. Also not forgetting to mention the Batman’s “The Pit” and also a quote from President Snow in the Hunger Games: “Hope. It is the only thing stronger than fear. A little hope is effective. A lot of hope is dangerous. A spark is fine, as long as its contained.” Finally, Life is not the amount of breaths you take, its the moments that take your breath away.
Posted on: Sat, 13 Dec 2014 14:48:02 +0000
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