~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~From The Mail Box ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I dont know how much good this will do, but I figured Id see what input people might give me... I was seeing this guy since December of last year. He told me we were just taking things slow, cause wed both been burned before and rushed into disasters. I was fine with that, and we had fun and were happy. A few months in, things got weird... he was having trouble with the lenders on his house, who foreclosed on him. I did everything I could to help him, but the house was auctioned off; I helped him find the place he ended up renting. Things started to go downhill after that... he kept telling me he didnt want to bring me over until he got things unpacked, but he had a house party and didnt invite me; he did invite a girl (he told friends of his that she was freaky and that he didnt need me because there are other freaky girls he knows). I dont know if he cheated with her, but I had only just told him I loved him around then, and I felt a little upset because hed told me the house wasnt fit for company. Another friend of his, shortly before he lost the house, saw me at a bar and heard Id asked someone if hed be coming (it was an event hed been invited to) and publicly posted accusations on Facebook that I was stalking him, and offered him a Taser and a gun to take care of me. She also threatened me in pm. I told him about it and told him to set her straight (I later found out he was telling a lot of people I was a stalker, even though he was coming to MY house to pick me up for dates and things) but he never really did and he spent a lot of time with her helping her with things. A few months later, she was harassing him all the time and being clingy and suddenly he wanted nothing to do with her. Thered be periods where Id only see him once every two months, and he got mad at me a lot over every little thing and wasnt nice... and then thered be periods where things were fine and I saw him a lot. I didnt know what to think, but I was getting more and more unhappy. Beginning of October, he totaled his car, and I helped him replace it (I basically paid for the car he drives now). Dec 29th, I found out hed changed his relationship status to in a relationship (He blocked me right before doing so, telling me he was deactivating his account) and it was some other girl. He was still making plans to see me at the time; wed still been involved physically but hed been seeing her since October. He told her he loves her, but he never said he loved me; he told me he wasnt ready for a serious relationship with anyone. I found out hed been bragging to friends about numerous conquests, and hed told most people I was a psycho stalker and crazy and not to talk to me or believe anything I say. Hed gaslighted me, (made me think I was crazy and I was the reason things were bad), mentally/emotionally abusing me, lying to me, taking advantage of my generosity, and cheating all over the place without protection. He threatened me ALL DAY when I found out he was cheating, and hes destroyed my reputation to the point I dont feel safe and dont leave the house much because I dont know how many people hes turned against me... My life is a nightmare, and hes completely fine. Almost everyone believes him when he says Im just crazy. The problem is I really did love him. For him to screw me over to such an extreme... I dont know what to do. I will never take him back, and he wont even talk to me now (he said, in writing and in front of my mom, that he will pay me back but Im not sure I believe him and I might have to take him to court) but Ive been screwed over and abused by guys too many times and I honestly dont want to try anymore. Every time I even think about maybe trying to date at all I feel like I cant. I dont want him, but I dont want anyone else. He told me he wouldnt do this... I should have known better. I feel like the only way I could ever really move on is if I lost my memory and moved to another country where no one he knows lives. How do I rebuild after he did so much damage? People all over think I am some kind of psycho, and some of them may well feel justified in physically harming me because of what he told them about me... I feel like I cant ever trust anyone in a relationship again because of him. I dont have a job anymore, I have very little money... what do I do? ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Follow Us By Getting Notification #IAmFedUpWithYourLiesAndCheating Like ✔ Comment ✔ Share ✔ Tag ✔
Posted on: Sat, 24 Jan 2015 21:35:00 +0000