#ReadThis! MEN! MEN!! MEN!!! Theyre always @fault for our single status, right ladies? Cos they always manage to do something wrong! Urrghh! If only we can get our Mr Right and put an end to further heartbreaks. Well ladies, lemme tell u d simple truth, Its Not their fault were single! NO IT IS NOT!!! We all have something at the back of our minds holding us back! Im also a woman and we gotta give ourselves some tough love. We have various thoughts like; 1) I dont trust Men. 2) I want Someone like my dad. 3) Men dont wanna commit. 4) Im just gonna get my heart broken. 5) I dont need a man, I can takia of myself. 6) Im too old/young for him.... Hmmm, lets see: Pls ladies, why dont u trust men? Oh, lemme guess, theyre heartbreakers right? Truth is we give room for heartbreaks. We see the warning signs, ignore it and go headlong into a relationship thats doomed from the start all in the name of love. Besides we play victims a lot! Well always say he did this to me, or he did that to me. Do u know that when we play victims in a relationship, we actually fall victims cos therell always be someone to victimise us. So lets set boundaries. People will violate u when u dont set boundaries. I think its highly unfair to compare our boyfriends/husbands to our fathers. No, its wrong, very wrong! Our fathers and mothers also started from somewhere, they did not have everything on a platter of gold. It took years and years of endurance, hardwork, quarrels, etc before they actually got to understand each other. Moreover, our fathers aint perfect u know, they also have their mistakes and flaws, ups n downs. So lets stop comparing our boyfriends/husband to our fathers or to anybody else and just be more supportive. Men dont wanna commit! Says who?! Who told u they dont wanna settle down and focus on their future? Who told u theyre not tired of the various heartbreaks theyve also experienced? Or do u think theyre robots? Theyre emotionless? Hell NO! Not every man u meet wanna use n dump u. If youve met 5, 10, 15 men and all they seem to want is to use and dump u then obviously something is wrong with u! Ladies also have a way of messing things up! We go and destroy a perfectly beautiful relationship with our mood-swings, jealousy, insecurities and with our fear of the unknown. Pls ladies lets be more mature, we may be feminine but were stronger than we think. Am just gonna get my heart broken, so why bother?! Pls ladies, we shouldnt focus on the bad side of our men, we are also far from perfect and our men arent saints either. Lets not focus on how our men are NOT treating us, lets focus on the little things they do to make us happy. Lets teach them how to love us the way we want. Men dont read minds, heck! they hardly read labels and directions, so why do we think theyre gonna know what we want in a twinkle of an eye. So ladies be more open with ur man, teach him how to touch and love u and theyll learn. Theyre fast learners...lol. I dont Need A Man, I can Takia Of Myself!!! This is my personal flaw but hey who says we dont need men? Well always need them, I know I need a man (and Ive got one, just too stubborn to accept him). Saying we dont need men only shows we have a strong personality, we dont like being weak or vulnerable! But whats soo wrong with admitting and accepting that we actually need men? We may be rich, very successful and no baggage but without a man, were gonna end up lonely cos our properties aint gonna show us some love. Its very ok to be vulnerable once in a while cos it makes us soft and feminine which is what men want to see, they want to see us from the inside out so theyll know theyre not dealing with robots and barbie-faced dolls. Lets be intimate with our men, Intimacy means Into Me See. Let him see the real u with no make-up or insecurities cos thats who hes gonna see every morning and when the babies start coming. We all have one kind of insecurity or the other on our bodies, let them see, touch and feel it. Believe me, itll make u freer. Hes too young/old for me! Naaah this is where were getting it wrong. When it comes to the matters of the heart, age is just a number, Love is all that matters. As long as the feeling is there then every other thing is minor. If you are older than him, then dont go parading urself like his mum, thats too cliché! Instead bring urself down with full respect. Dont believe u can scold or insult him as u pls cos youll only bruise his ego. Understand him and his needs and teach him to see u as his woman rather than his elder sister. Men also have a fear of rejection so we need to always Affirm our commitment, Acknowledge theyre still the ONE and Appreciate every little thing they do for us. Ladies be wise, its a cold and lonely world out there without a man. Stay in peace and not in pieces. Xoxo
Posted on: Sat, 29 Mar 2014 12:57:47 +0000
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