*Relationship Quotes and Your Relationship...BEWARE* Whether you have been hurt by a lover, or waiting on God to send Mr. Right to you (unmarried), there is nothing like straight talk from photo posts in your Facebook Newsfeed on this subject to whip you back into reality, and motivate you to make the changes in your life that needs to be made. Relationship quotes serve as a jump start ‘pick-me-up’, when your feelings seem to have paralyzed you to be ‘stuck on stupid’. However, there is another side to the coin on this issue and that is what I am going to spend the rest of this article on. A lot of the motivational photo posts on relationships are often geared towards a woman’s needs, and what to look for/not tolerate in a man. As much as some of these counsels are true, there are also many which are nothing short of destructive to your marriage or your view on what to expect in marriage. I have found that the quotes lean heavily on the side of a ‘get up and move on’ if the man is not giving you ‘what you deserve’. Then you get the posts which list out ‘someone’s’ perspective on what makes up a ‘real man’. It is these ‘real men’ quotes that really rub me raw, and I will list to you why they can be dangerous to your marriage or view of what a marriage should be: 1. Ladies, if your view of a real man is someone who will NEVER (watch out for the absolutes in the quotes!!!) hurt your feelings, let you down, ignore you, not make time for you, walk out on you when you need them, then there are NO REAL MEN OUT THERE…point blank period! A real woman will understand that a real man has flaws (just like she does). 2. Back in my grandparents’ day, marriages lasted much longer than they do today. I think this was because they lived in a generation that they believed that if something was broken, you fix it. Not with this generation! These quotes places limits on what we should endure in a relationship. If you are married, you have NO RIGHT whatsoever to place a limit on what you will be willing to go through with your husband, for wasnt it you who vowed before God and witnesses, “for better, for WORSE”? If every time your husband fails of being the man that ‘you deserve’, then you see it as a time to throw in the towel and get you a ‘real man who will treat you right, not make you cry, not…..just NOT’, then you have exchanged the STAYING POWER OF GOD of your vow, for a quote that a HUMAN BEING wrote (who is probably in a messed up marriage themselves!) Ladies, when we allow relationship quotes about what a ‘real man’ is and is not, to feed our minds, then we are not allowing the principles of God’s Word towards wives to be our foundation anymore, and we are destined to walk out, ‘move on’ from a marriage that God was willing and able to transform! 3. Relationship quotes can often make you feel discontent with the relationship that you have because, after all, your man isn’t lining up with that quote. You may think that is immature for me to say that quotes can alter how you see your man, but give it time and you will see that those words will work like leaven to make you feel disgruntled about what your husband is not doing right, rather than appreciate and praise him for what he is doing right. Before you know it, you guys are in conflict because your tolerance level has now dropped, and then you are vulnerable to having your eyes wander elsewhere. 4. Finally, when we get so wrapped up in what a ‘real man’ should be, and what our husbands are failing in, we have no time, and no brain space to think on what can I do to be a real woman for my husband? What can I do to help my husband in this area? In some cases you will be shocked that it was YOUR ATTITUDE, YOUR MOUTH, YOUR DISRESPECT of his manhood, that made him vulnerable to slip into other sins [He is still responsible for his behaviour, nonetheless]! We women need to start looking at the woman in the mirror and see if we have a beam in our eye! There is something beautiful, I mean irresistibly beautiful about a woman who humbles her heart before God, and seeks to adorn herself with graciousness: SHE BECOMES A MAGNET FOR RESPECT AND HONOUR FROM HER HUSBAND. Pro 18:12 Before honour is humility. Pro 11:16 A gracious woman retaineth honour… *God will ALWAYS give you what your dignified womanhood deserves, don’t worry!* © SDW, 2013.
Posted on: Thu, 11 Sep 2014 18:26:16 +0000