“Selection of a partner: ♡♥♡♥♡♥♡♥♡♥♡♥♡♥♡♥ The choice of a partner should be the one with the most “Taqwa” (piety). The Prophet (SAW) recommended suitors see each other before going through with marriage. It is unreasonable for two people to be thrown together and be expected to relate and be intimate when they know nothing of each other. ◾The couple is permitted to look at each other with a critical eye and not a desireful one. This ruling does not contradict the Ayah which says that believing men and women should lower their gaze. ◾ The couple, however is not permitted to be alone in a closed room or to go out together alone. As the hadith says “When a man and a woman are together alone, there is a third presence i.e. shaitan. ◾There is no dating or living in defacto relationships with each other before they commit to each other seriously. ◾There is to be no physical relationship before marriage. ◾The romantic notions that young people often have, have proven in most cases to be unrealistic and harmful to those involved. ◾We only have to look at the alarming divorce rates to understand this point. e.g. the couple know each other for years, are intimate, live together and so on yet somehow this does not guarantee the success of the future marriage. ◾ “Romance” often dies out very quickly when we have to deal with the real world. ◾Unrealistic expectations often contributes to problems within relationships. ◾It is better to focus on compatibility of the couple and critical evaluation than solely physical attraction.” (via islamwaytolive)
Posted on: Mon, 09 Sep 2013 08:37:50 +0000
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