#Things_we_take_for_granted Pls take your time to read this When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you.’ She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. ‘I want a divorce.’ I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, #why?’ I avoided her question. This made her #angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, #you_are_not_a_man!’ That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I didn’t love her anymore. I just #pitied_her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved #Sandra so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now. The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with #Sandra. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again. In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: She didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: Our son had his exams in a months time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage. This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told #Sandra about my wifes divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. ‘No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce,’ she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding #Mummy in his arms. #For_the_very_first_time_in_my_life His words brought me a sense of #pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; ‘ don’t tell our son about the divorce.’ I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office. On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest.. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a #lonnnnng time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her. On the #fourth_day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of #intimacy returning… This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the #fifth_and_sixth day, I realized that our sense of #intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell #Sandra about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me; I woke up middle of the night, straight inside my Car locked myself inside and cried to GOD to forgive me first for two hours. cause she had buried so much #PAINS and #BITTERNESS in her heart. Next morning Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, ‘Dad, it’s time to carry mum out.’ To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office… #jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind… I walked upstairs. #Sandra opened the door and I said to her, ‘ Sorry, #Sandra, I do not want the divorce anymore.’ She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. #Do_you_have_a_fever?’ She said. I moved her hand off my head. ‘ Sorry, #Sandra, I said, I won’t divorce again.’ My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until #death_does_us_apart. #Sandra seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The #sale_sgirl asked me what to write on the card. I #smiled_and_wrote: #I_will_carry_you_out_every_morning_until_death_do_us_part’. ===== The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the cars, the property, the fame, the positions, how many people we know, how many people knows us, either ure black or white, any tribes in the world, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that #BUILD_INTIMACY Its a little thing we took for granted.. Sometimes kills... or heals...
Posted on: Tue, 02 Sep 2014 04:40:29 +0000
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