*disclaimer: I am in no way undermining mentioned comparisons. I am not saying any given situation/scenario is worse than others. Here is my thought for today and, please, feel free to chime in. However, DO NOT feel free to bully me or anyone else for their opinions. I am fully aware that it may not sound as great as I thought it would. I mean it in the least insulting way possible. Im sure that each of you has heard the phrase, there are starving babies in Africa, at some point in your life for any given reason. Usually it is used as persuasion to get you to shovel down the spinach or broccoli. Right? Then we got older. Our parents no longer say it to make us eat broccoli but, instead, to make us find perspective. Now, most situations warrant this technique and I, myself, have said it a few times. Small problems; rumors, bad grades, having a cold, having to clean a room. All are examples of correct situations to use the above. All warrant a smack on the back of the head and a swift kick in the arse. You know when it is wrong to use starving kids to give people perspective? When they are feeling a deep depression, anxiety, or any other disorder/illness they cannot pull themselves out from under. Yes, I said under. Disorders/illnesses will crush you. They crush your mind and spirit. Eventually you will hurt physically. They will kill you slowly. When a person cannot get up in the morning without contemplating life and death, the one thing you do NOT say to them is, yeah but there are starving babies in Africa[...insert other horribly insulting try for perspective...]. I understand that I am pretty lucky. I have a good life. Except that I lost my son and two other babies I never got to meet. I never heard their heartbeats or found out gender. I never got to name them. I am a mother first and foremost. All of my babies happen to have wings. So what Im not dead? I want to be. So excuse me for not pushing off my emotions for those starving African babies. One day I will. One day, when Im no longer fishing myself out of this swirling vortex of negativity that keeps throwing bad things, one after another, into my face, I will help those babies. But until then I need to focus on getting myself better for MY life because i promised my little boy that I would. Let me be selfish for a while so that when Im okay again I can go and do everything in my power to make those starving babies all better.
Posted on: Fri, 15 Aug 2014 00:30:46 +0000
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