~karen Sue Else, president of the National Network to End Domestic Violence, offers steps for staying safe after leaving an abusive relationship: Consider going to a shelter Domestic violence shelters are available to provide safety and to help you get on your feet. In addition to safety, they provide services, support and resources for you and your children. Secure your new home Consider new window and door locks, outdoor lights, an alarm system, steel doors and smoke detectors. Dont move to a secluded area Move to a neighborhood with lots of neighbors, perhaps an apartment complex, with a Neighborhood Watch program. Keep new address confidential Get a P.O. Box, and dont give out your real address. Try to rent a home that has utilities included, sign up for an Address Confidentiality Program through your state government, and make sure your voter registration doesnt have your address. Stay off social networking websites You dont want information about who youre friends with and what youre doing public. You dont know who could be friends with your ex. Obtain a protection order Keep a copy on you at all times. Give copies to family, friends, co-workers and your childrens school. Change your patterns Shop at new stores, take different routes to work, change coffee shops and gas stations, go to a faith service at a different time, switch to a new bank. Secure your accounts Change your passwords, PIN codes, and call utility companies and ask them to add a password that only you know to your account. Get a new computer Spyware could be on your old computer, allowing the abuser to know everything you do on the computer and read all of your e-mail. Get a new cell phone and number Verizon HopeLine donates phones to victims through local shelters. Protect yourself at work Alert your supervisor and the security staff, remove your number from the office directory, and even change office locations. Ask security to walk you to your car. Safety plan with your children Teach children what to do if the abuser kidnaps them or breaks into the house. You dont want to scare your children, but help them be prepared. Alert the school or daycare of the danger. Dont isolate yourself Dont park your car in large parking garages, jog at night or in secluded areas. Park as close to the location as possible. Document everything Keep records of all texts, e-mails, stalking and harassment. Keep video or written journal and hide it! Keep loved ones informed Always tell a trusted person where you are going, EVERY DAY. Have check-in times so loved ones always know you are safe. Be prepared Have 911 ready to call when you are walking to your car. Be aware of your environment; if something feels out of the ordinary, IT IS! Have a bag packed Include an extra set of keys, identification, car title, birth certificate, social security, clothes for you and your children, shoes, money, jewelry anything important to you.
Posted on: Fri, 15 Aug 2014 17:07:11 +0000
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