1 Let it out. Don’t pretend you’re fine. Punch a pillow, spend a night crying, do whatever it takes to get it out there. Talk to yourself and listen to how you feel. Right now is the time for emotion and it shouldnt be resisted. When you get it all out now, there will be very little to get out later.This will be easier with a family member or friend you trust. Find someone who has a shoulder youre comfortable crying on and let loose. Theyve likely cried on your shoulder at some point – now all theyre doing is returning the favor. 2 Don’t try to see or talk to your ex.When you two broke up, it likely happened for a reason. Dont call or text him/her, talking to them like nothing happened or trying to make them love you again. Itll just make you seem weak and clingy, and it’ll keep those feelings you want to get rid of raging.Don’t stalk them on the Internet, either. You’ll only concentrate on the pictures of them being happy and having a good time; you’ll keep looking for clues and memories, keeping you from feeling better. If you have to, block them on your pages so you’re not tempted.Replace the void with someone else. When you get that urge to text someone about that funny video that’s going around at work, text someone else, like your best friend. Having a replacement makes those little habits less problematic. 3 Play nice. It’s too easy to go out and slash their tires, key their car, or egg their house. You could spread rumors about them and start the gossip mill going – but don’t. It won’t get you anywhere, and it definitely won’t get others on your side of the break up.There is usually the bigger man in any break up – the person that takes the high road and is mature and graceful about it. Make sure that person is you by keeping your cool, keeping your distance, and playing nice.If you end up around them, just be civil. Do not go out of your way to be overly friendly or even initiate contact. Right now, they are a mere acquaintance until the wounds heal. If they want to talk or get together, just say that youre busy. Youll let them know when you want to talk. You should call the shots, after all. 4 Don’t change your appearance. After a break up, it’s common to want to get your hair cut or dyed or get a tattoo. This helps us feel like were changing our identities and that we can be a whole new person – a person that didn’t have this relationship. It can feel revitalizing – until it feels like a mistake. Resist the urge because youll likely just regret it later.Whats more, everyone will know why youre going about this change. It will seem like youre grasping at straws to find yourself and assert your new identity. Dont bother; its just a passing phase. Youll be glad you didnt soon enough.
Posted on: Wed, 01 Oct 2014 06:21:46 +0000
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