10 hours ago Help! My preschooler clings on to me when I drop him off at school? What should I do? Your preschooler’s body is telling you important information about his feelings. Heres how to help: 1. Provide empathy for his upset 2. Focus on safety 3. Do an active calming technique 4. Do a connection ritual before you leave Heres what it looks like all together: EMPATHY - Say, “Your body tells me you might be feeling scared about staying at school while I go to work. SAFETY - Say, You are safe at preschool. Mrs. Kendall will keep you safe.” ACTIVE CALMING - Breathe together using an active calming technique like the S.T.A.R. (Read our book Shubert is a S.T.A.R. frequently, at home, so this deep breathing technique becomes second nature.) 4. CONNECTION RITUAL - Establish a connection ritual that you do together every morning at goodbye time. Involve the teacher in the ritual if possible. A favorite ritual from our I Love You Ritual book would be ideal. After the ritual, it is time for you to leave. Breathe deeply and assertively state, “I’ll be back after naptime. Mrs. Kendall will keep you safe. You can handle it,” and pass your child off into Mrs. Kendall’s waiting hands. As you leave, envision your child as capable and strong, instead of feeling bad about leaving or upset about the disruption. Turn and walk away, breathing and wishing him well knowing you can both handle this. It’s also helpful to know that during a certain developmental stage from 18 months to 2 ½ years, leaving Mom is more difficult for your child. If possible, you might ask your significant other to drop the child off. As always, we wish you well! #iheartcd #consciousdiscipline #connectedfamily #schoolfamily #ecc #preschool
Posted on: Wed, 13 Aug 2014 23:00:28 +0000
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