12th August (Tuesday)Continuing Chapter 10: NVC BOOK STUDY INTENSIVE PROGRAM + Your Weekly Reflection Dear friends, This is just to re-confirm that the next NVC BOOK STUDY INTENSIVE PROGRAM Session based on Marshall Rosenbergs 13-chapter book, Nonviolent Communication, A Language of Life. will take place on : Date: August 12th, 2014 (Tuesday) Time: 7 pm - 9 pm Venue: PADMA - Centre for Soul Realisation, X-29 Hauz Khas (basement),On NIFT Road,New Delhi - 11 00 16 Lesson Plan: Continuing(Chapter 10: Expressing Anger Fully)- Nonviolent Communication, A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg Facilitator: Manasi Saxena Contribution : Rs 150/- per session. (This may be paid at the front desk of the Centre before the start of the session) Please do read the chapter before the practice session. Kindly inform in advance in case you are bringing any newcomers along. Newcomers need to come in at least one hour in advance i.e. by 6 pm for introduction to NVC.( to read more on NVC please see text below Your Weekly Reflection) Kindly confirm via return email ,phone or sms whether or not if you are able to make it , and please feel free to pass on this message to anyone who might be interested In case of any queries,do call the on the numbers given below Looking forward to connecting & practicing with you. Have a beautiful day, With love, Meenu YOUR WEEKLY REFLECTION: My whole goal is to keep my spirit intact. If that doesn’t happen, none of this is worth it. —Jewel Honesty as a Means to Connect Not long ago, I was sitting in church listening to the choir. One of the gentlemen in the choir stepped up to the mike to sing a brief solo. He sang off key sometimes and his voice shook. I thought he was very nervous. I wondered, should I tell him that he sang off key? It would have been honest—at least from my perspective. Instead, I told him that I admired his courage in doing something he enjoyed so much, and that his courage helped me muster the strength to sing in public as well. This also was an honest statement. He teared up a bit and told me that he sang so beautifully when he was alone, and that he was really trying to free his voice in front of other people. We both gained an expanded appreciation for each other, and I walked away feeling gratitude that my church community offered such opportunities to its members. Talking with my church friend in this way met many needs for me: honesty, connection, consideration, respect, and learning. And it helped me remember that honesty is an important tool that can be used to connect, rather than stimulate pain in others. Notice the opportunities you have today to use honesty as a means to connect with someone else. This reflection is an excerpt from Peaceful Living: Daily Meditations for Living with Love, Healing, and Compassion by Mary Mackenzie. For further details and information on NVC - please visit the following websites: cnvc.org OR READ HERE : AN INTRODUCTION TO NVC NVC is a specific approach to communication—speaking and listening—that leads us to give from the heart, connecting with ourselves and others in a way that allows our natural compassion to flow. NVC is founded on language and communication skills that strengthen our ability to remain human, even under very trying circumstances. It is a process of communication, a language of compassion. NVC guides us in reframing how we express ourselves and hear others. Our words become conscious responses. We are led to express ourselves with honesty and clarity, while simultaneously paying others respectful and empathic attention. NVCtrains us to observe carefully and be able to specify behaviors and conditions that are affecting us. When we focus on clarifying what is being observed, felt and needed rather than on diagnosing and judging, we discover the depth of our own compassion. Cultural conditioning leads me to focus attention on places where I am unlikely to get what I want. NVC helps train my attention—to shine the light of my consciousness—on places that have the potential to yield what I am seeking. What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart. When we give from the heart, it benefits both giver and receiver. If we stay with the principles of NVC, motivated solely to give and receive compassionately, and do everything we can to let others know this is our only motive, they will join us in the process, and eventually we will be able to respond compassionately with one another. THE NVC PROCESS To give from the heart, we focus the light of consciousness on four areas—the four components of NVC. 1. We observe what is actually happening in a situation: what are others doing that are either enriching or not enriching in our life? Articulate the observation without any judgement or evaluation. Simply state what people are doing that we like or do not like. 2. Next, state how we feel when we observe this action: hurt, amused, angry, happy, joyful, etc. 3. What needs of ours are connected to the feelings we have identified? 4. A very specific request is made immediately after, which addresses what we are wanting from the other/myself that would enrich our lives. Part of NVC is to express these four pieces of information clearly. The other aspect of NVC is to receive the same four pieces of information from others. We connect with them by sensing what they are observing, feeling and needing and then discover what would enrich their lives by receiving the fourth piece, the request. As we keep our attention focused on these, we establish a flow of communication, back and forth, until compassion manifests naturally: what I am observing, feeling, needing and my request to enrich my life: what you are observing, feeling, needing and what you are requesting to enrich your life… NVC doesnt consist of a set formula but adapts to various situations as well as personal and cultural styles. The essence of NVC is to be found in our consciousness of these four components, not in the actual words that are exchanged. When we use NVC in our interactions, we become grounded in our natural state of compassion. NVC fosters deep listening, respect and empathy, and engenders a mutual desire to give from the heart adapted from Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. Published by PuddleDancer Press -- Inline image 1 PADMA - Centre for Soul Realisation is a multidisciplinary centre offering PRANIC HEALING * MEDITATION * ARHATIC YOGA * NVC * MEENUS PRAANA KITCHEN X-29, Hauz Khas, LGF On NIFT Road, New Delhi - 11 00 16 India. Phone :+919650650333 or +91(11),42657781/83 e-mail :padma3om@gmail Website : padmapranichealing
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