18/12/2014 Today’s Meditation: Ephesians 5:21-33 Your Marriage Your Destiny 20 Marriage: The Responsibilities 2 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,… So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church Eph 5:25-29. Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them Col 3:19. Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered 1Pet 3:7. Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband Eph 5:33. Being a husband is a serious responsibility. It is a serious responsibility of love. It takes a man who has experienced the love of God demonstrated in Christ to be a real man in the home. The love of Christ is the standard of love expected of a correct husband. For a man to understand the expectation of God from his life as a husband, for him to know how he ought to love his wife, he must first make a serious research into how Christ loves the church. For example, the word of God says “But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us” Rom 5:8. “By this we know love, because He laid down His life for us. And we also ought to lay down our lives for the brethren” 1Joh 3:16. The love of Christ took Him to Calvary to die for the undeserving world. That is how a correct man should love his wife. Even when the woman is bad and undeserving, he must be ready to love her to the point of laying down his life for her. A man who can stand with, care for and accommodate an unruly, stubborn and irritating wife is the man who passed the test of true love. Ironically every marriage starts on the note of love. Have you ever seen a man who went to a lady and said “young lady, I hate you so much. Will you marry me”? No; it is always “I love you”. Even those marriages which will not last three months and those who will end in the man beating his wife to death all started with “I love you”. Bro, didn’t you say that you love that woman some years ago? Where is that your love now? So it was a counterfeit love after all! Now that you have gotten what you wanted from her, the love has disappeared. You see, pure gold does not change colour with changes in weather, so genuine love does not change its character with changes in situations. That you have now discovered some flaws in that woman should not corrode your love if in reality it was a genuine love. Has it occurred to you that even when we keep disappointing Christ by our numerous faults and imperfections, He keeps His love for us intact and He is never bitter against us? If you are receiving such a huge tolerance and sincere love from Christ and you cannot transfer same to your wife, you did not deserve that woman in the first instance; it was a mistake that the woman was given to you in marriage. If couples were sincere in the “I love you” declarations at the beginning of their relationships, there will be peace in the home throughout the journey. Unfortunately all the “I love you” when they started the journey were ruses and artifices; they were mere emotional display of lusts and infatuations. If you truly understand love, you will know that love is risky. Love will take from you all that you have and you must not hesitate to give it. Love will cause you to look away from yourself and jettison your conveniences. Love will make you do things that are not convenient and endure all things that are painful. True love does not complain. True love easily and quickly forgives and forgets; true love does not keep record or diary of wrongs. There is no element of bitterness in true love. For the married, I say this morning; rediscover the love you were confessing at the beginning. Sit down together and ask yourselves “where went that love we were speaking about during our courtship”? Were we deceiving ourselves in those days? Talk about it and pray about it until true love is restored into your relationship. Husband should take the lead in love just as wife should take the lead in submission but love and submission should be mutual. To the unmarried, beware of love; many of them these days are fake! My sister, do not be carried away with one useless “I love you” from a man that will turn around and turn your head into a punching bag. My brother, do not confess love to a lady you do not know. Don’t be carried away by facial beauty; they are deceptive. Deal carefully on matters of love. Allow God to help you. May the love of God return to every home where this message is being read in Jesus name. All the works of darkness and of the devil shall disappear in your home today in Jesus name. God of love will give you perfect peace in your home and marriage in Jesus name. Have a blessed day; you are favoured in Jesus name. I am on my way to Lagos this morning for ministrations in a Workers Retreat; pray along with me. I hope to be able to reach you from Lagos tomorrow. You can also follow me on twitter now. My handle is @amosoladele2013. Stay blessed!
Posted on: Thu, 18 Dec 2014 05:26:58 +0000
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