2. We always fight about the same silly things HOW TO SOLVE DAILY FIGHTS IN OUR HOMES Were deeply supportive of each other in a lot of ways, but when we fight, we are pitted against each other. We both get defensive, and we get nowhere. Says clinical psychologist Andra Brosh, PhD: When couples have the same fight over and over again, its like a dance. They each repeat the same steps, making it impossible to resolve anything. Fights and defensiveness are usually fear-based, and deep down each partner is terrified of being abandoned, rejected, or seen as inadequate. Showing our warts in a relationship can only happen when there is complete trust and unconditional love. Otherwise each partner will do anything to hide what they deem will be unacceptable to the other. The only way out of the dance, the recurring fight, is to recognize the steps, and then to do something different.
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