3 Things Happy People Never Do It’s just not fair, is it? Life rolls easy for some people whilst others seem to have their unfair share of misery. Surely they have a right to be unhappy? You could make that argument, but it will lead you to more misery. Everyone has ups and downs in their life. Here are a few of the secrets that mark out those who breeze through the worst of life’s storms compared with those who seem to crumble when they burn the toast. The first is what they say to themselves. …tell yourself it’s not fair or that you have every right to feel bad and the only person to suffer will be yourself. I’m not saying that unhappy people consciously or deliberately make themselves feel bad, but just becoming aware of your inner monologue can significantly lift your spirits. And, if you make a habit of it, you may well turn into one of those happy-go-lucky people before you realise it’s even happened! So the next time something doesn’t work out the way you’d hoped it would, instead of asking yourself “Why me?” (or some equivalent), try saying to yourself, “No matter what happens, I always find a way to handle it.” It’s only one thought, but you’ll be amazed at the instant lift in your spirits you’ll feel the moment you think it. The next happy person secret sounds surprising and it’s this: Be selfish! Yep, I said it. Happy people never put themselves last because they intuitively understand that nobody can give more than they have. This isn’t the same as being mean or unkind. What it means is to look after you as well as others. Or to put it better, look after yourself so that you can look after others. Those people who seem to always put others first and never give anything to themselves eventually burn out. You cannot keep giving from an empty pot. When it comes to giving to yourself, a little can go a long way … A cosy night just for two once in a while, a day away, or even a small treat to yourself can top you up for ages. Here is one more golden rule that happy people live by: Never blame. Maybe the government did have something to do with your business collapsing. Perhaps the doctor could have spotted some symptom sooner. Your mother may be interfering in how to bring up the kids. But blaming them – or anything or anyone – for your unhappiness or stress is not only pointless since they won’t change or cannot undo what has been done. It’s going to make things worse too. Play it out and you’ll see what I mean: You feel bad and you tell somebody it’s their fault. Now they feel bad. What are they going to do? Even if they apologise they don’t feel great about themselves or you. Instead, happy people tend to ask themselves how they can produce a different response. A smile is going to get a very different reaction from a frown or a growl, isn’t it? There may not always be obvious answers and the solutions won’t always be the easiest. But adopting habits such as these will mean you live less stressed and more fulfilled. And the knock-on effect of that is that you’ll discover more ways of your own to stay happy and at peace within yourself. Do you have any ways you to stay happy, feel good, and be at peace within yourself? If so, we’d love to hear what they are…so maybe we could start using them too! Please share… Warmly, C.M.O.
Posted on: Wed, 12 Mar 2014 06:54:08 +0000
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