4. Be honest and open. What have you got to hide? Were all imperfect, growing, learning human beings. If you feel ashamed or insecure about any aspect of yourself — and you feel that you have to hide those parts of you, whether physically or emotionally — then you have to come to terms with that and learn to convert your so-called flaws into individualistic quirks or simply as basic, down-to-earth acknowledgments of your own imperfections. Be honest with yourself, but dont beat yourself up; apply this philosophy to others, as well. There is a difference between being critical and being honest; learn to watch the way you say things to yourself and others when being honest. • Try the tactic of owning up to your imperfections mid-argument with someone. You will often discover that suddenly youve removed the very reason for stubbornly holding the line of argument, which is often about preserving face and not giving in. The moment you say, Yeah, look I get really irritable when the rooms in a mess too. And I acknowledge that I shouldnt leave my clothes in a pile on the floor and yet, I do it because thats a lazy part of myself Im still trying to train out of the habit. Im sorry. I know I could do better, and I will try., you suddenly infuse an argument with genuine self-honesty that disarms the entire point of the argument, which in this case is messy habits but could apply to anything about your own behavior. 5. Relax. Stop worrying about the worst that could happen, especially in social situations. So what if you fall flat on your face? Or get spinach stuck in your teeth? Or accidentally head butt your date when leaning in for a kiss? Learn to laugh at yourself both when it happens and afterward. Turn it into a funny story that you can share with others. It lets them know that youre not perfect and makes you feel more at ease, too. Its also an attractive quality for someone to be able to laugh at themselves and not take themselves too seriously!
Posted on: Sun, 27 Oct 2013 08:52:07 +0000
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