4. Social and friendships/relationships Preference for one-on-one social interactions, single close friendships Need more time away from people than their peers (solitude) May experience confusion in social group situations Strong preference to engage in conversation related to their special interest Strong dislike for social chit-chat or conversation that lacks a ‘function’ to it A history of being bullied, teased, left out and/or not fitting in with same-age peers, unless she had/has similar “Aspie” friends Has a strong dislike of chit-chat, gossip, nonsense, lies An intense dislike of lies, but may lie herself Has an ability to socialize, however is unable to do so for long periods of time. Suffers from “social exhaustion” or a “social hangover” when socializing too much. The hangover can last hours to days, which can be debilitating Experience great difficulty with conflict, arguments, being yelled at, fighting, war Has great difficulty asserting herself, asking for help, setting boundaries May need to drink to be social May currently have or have experienced Post-Traumatic Stress, often due to being misunderstood, misdiagnosed, mistreated, and/or mismedicated. Social Skills differences – is exceptionally good one-on-one and presenting to groups, however has difficulty working within group situations May find herself in social situations or relationships that she is unhappy with, but not know how to remove herself from them History of being taken advantage of by others, even though she has taken the appropriate business, legal or social advice from others Often bored in social situations or parties and/or does not know how to act in social situations May say “yes” to social events, then later make up an excuse as to why she cannot attend, often staying home in solitude Often prefers to be engaged in her special interest, rather than socializing May be considered the “black sheep” of the family Others consider her different, odd, and eccentric by others May feel like she has to act normal” to please others OR does not care at all about fitting in Copies, mimics, acts in order to fit in and make others like her A people pleaser, but then may burn bridges suddenly (for e.g., quit relationships) May be considered a “loner”, may have many acquaintances, but no real friends
Posted on: Wed, 05 Jun 2013 21:53:51 +0000