4 Things to Do When You Can’t Come to an Agreement with Your Spouse 1 Try to Put Myself in His Shoes For most of the things that we disagree on, I find that we are both right…..but we just have different ways of approaching the situation. So, when we don’t come to an agreement about something, I try to put myself in his shoes in an attempt to understand his perspective. This really helps me to loosen my grip on my position…and moves me closer towards a compromise. 2 Take One for the Team In your marriage, things are not going to go 100% your way all of the time. Sometimes you’ll get your way. Sometimes, you will be able to come to a compromise (you give in a little…your spouse gives a little….you make it work for both of you.) But then, there will be those times that you will have to sacrifice for the common good of the relationship. I love what relationship coach, Rahaman Kilpatrick said in a recent article I Did It My Way: How to Compromise in Your Marriage. He said: “And just like a kid, sometimes you’re not gonna get your way…. but MAN UP! You’re not a kid anymore. And where else in life do you get your way all of the time? Nowhere. So why would you expect to get your way all of the time in your marriage?” 3 Keep Working on It There are some things that you can’t let go unresolved ….. as they will keep cropping up and keep nagging at you. So, every so often, I will bring those things up again. Note: this is where those tips and tools come in handy …as I have learned to pick the appropriate time to bring things up…and how to remain respectful….things like that. 4 Look at the Big Picture I can say without a shadow of a doubt that I am loved. Lamar is a good husband, father, and provider. So when we can’t come to an agreement on things (especially those things that make me angry) I remind myself that I have a good man in my life. And, it helps me to put things into perspective.
Posted on: Wed, 30 Oct 2013 09:40:47 +0000
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