5 Indispensable Steps To Overcome Your Past Some people believe life is a battle. It’s either you fight to win or be defeated. Regardless of your school of thought, challenges are real and cannot be predictable. One of the challenges most people face is the ability to conquer their past. As simple as it may seem to some, it’s usually a difficult battle for others. Past relationship, terrible parental upbringing, regret, emotional pain or the bad experience some had about love poses itself as a challenge in their life. How can I overcome an awful experience from an abusive relationship, rape, abuse or the likes? Do the following. 1. Let go of the past so that God can heal you It’s usually a tough battle to let go of the past seeing that you have a functioning memory. Some can remember dates, scene or graphic events that led to their past issue but one thing remains true, you cannot get over the past if you keep the memory afresh. Try as much as you can to allow other things take over your mind, with time, you will forget it. If you dwell on the past, time cannot heal you. I know there’s going to be a time when you recall those memories to mind, but don’t dwell too much on them. Get it off your mind so that God can work on you with time for healing. Healing doesn’t come sudden, it happens gradually as long as you’re letting it off your mind steadily. 2. Forgive the person Forgiveness is not a difficult thing to do if you’re ready to embrace it. It prevents you from keeping the offender in the prison cage of your mind so that you can be free from anger, resentment or bitterness. If you do not forgive, you cannot easily forget the past. If you keep the memories fresh, you cannot forget it. Don’t be idle or do things that would make you recall the past event. If you cannot do it on you own, ask for God’s help while you try as much as you can to love the person rather than hate them or the situation. 3. Love the person and learn from the situation Oftentimes it’s natural to hate people that does evil to us. But, hating them will never solve your problems. In fact it will worsen your situation and steal your joy while the person enjoys freedom while you’re there nursing the pain. Must you allow that? If a person has being the reason for your bad experiences in the past, love him/her. I continued to suffer regrets when I remembered what my dad did to me in the past. But until I decided to love him and lovingly let go of the situation, I never found peace whenever it (past) crosses my mind. Due to the painful past I had, I vowed to be a great dad and a loving husband. You too can do same. There’s always something you can learn from that situation. Hating the person will increase your frustration and pain in life. But when you love the person and love the situation, you’ll find the courage to overcome the past gradually. 4. Love yourself Most people usually blame themselves for what has happened in the past. “How I wish I grew up in another family”, “How I wish I never fell in love with him/her”, “I regretted the day I gave him my body” and so on. Relax! Blaming yourself cannot take away the pain. Love yourself, not for what happened in the past but for who you’ll become in the future if only you can see it. This will help you to be optimistic in life and give you the strength to forge ahead. Moreover, failure to love yourself and playing the blame game will tie you down in the past though you’re years away from it. You’ll find it difficult to move on if you hate yourself. Until you come out of the past, you cannot overcome it. 5. Be in Christ If any man be in Christ, he’s a new creature, old things have passed away and all things have become new. You can never be in the past and overcome it. You can’t keep hating the person or yourself and move on. Until you come to Christ, you can’t become a new person. When Christ comes into your life, He’ll help you love the person, forgive, let go of the past and move on in life. Ruth lost her husband to the cold hands of death, yet that doesn’t prevent her from forging ahead in life. She endured and disallowed her past from affecting her life. Her ability to overcome her past failure earned her a reputable marriage and she became a descendant of Christ. What are you still doing with your past? Get up now and move up! I understood it was bad and terrible but you can only be better when you conquer it. Come to Christ – He’ll help you to let go and let God, forgive easily, love yourself and convert the mess in the past to a message, now and in the future.
Posted on: Tue, 30 Dec 2014 14:40:38 +0000
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