5 Parenting Alternatives To Spanking: Time-outs for both a frustrated parent and/or child. Of note, timeouts are hard to pull off with a child under age 2 years. After age two, as a general rule, about 1 minute per year of age for your child is a good duration for timeouts. Shorter timeouts may be effective, but a 5 minute time out for a 3 year-old will likely fail as they just won’t sit still that long. Logical consequences from letting things play out. If you tell your child they won’t get to read any of their favorite books for a week that they’re throwing around the room, as they lose access to those books it may help curb the unwanted book-throwing in your home going forward. Taking away devices of privilege: if a reward for your children is watching a show or playing with a tablet or smartphone, consider having children earn that time by good citizenship at home. If they have undesired behavior they loose access to that 30 minutes of 60 minutes with their favorite screen. Natural Consequences: If your child refuses to keep clothes on during a meal, let them know that they may get cold during the meal but are required to sit with family until everyone is done. Therefore once cold, they’ll learn a bit. Celebrity Katie Holmes did this well when she took her daughter outside without a coat because her daughter refused to put one on… Set Children Up For Success: Clearly we all know what drains our kid the most (a lack of food, an over-scheduled day, anxiety about meeting new people, etc) so work hard to have a strategy in place for the inevitable tantrum or terrible wild-child behavior that will come when you stretch your child during a day of travel or running errands. Also modeling your own self-regulation over time will always help your child soak in better ways to deal with conflict of any kind.
Posted on: Tue, 16 Sep 2014 22:54:52 +0000
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