5 TALKS to avoid for a DEPRESSED PERSON:---------- 1)Its all in your head. 2)Just think -- there are others who have it worse than you do. 3)Cheer up. Telling someone to be cheery isnt going to do much -- in fact, it may make them feel worse. Instead of advising them to perk up, try just offering your presence. Just listening to what that person is going through and saying something like, Wow that must be hard, gives them validation that its a difficult time. If they could cheer up, they would have by now. 4)Suck it up. You may not intend to trivialize someones condition -- but with phrases like suck it up or just be positive, you may be doing just that. What [most people dont realize] about depression is that it’s debilitating to concentration, focus and sleep. It changes lives and people get off of trajectory of where they’re heading. 5)You have to be strong for your kids. When trying to comfort someone with depression when children are involved, the process may be a little bit trickier. while you may think you are helping out by giving advice about the kids -- or even offering to help by watching them for a few hours -- it may be misinterpreted. They may be sensitive to that and think, Oh, she thinks I am a terrible parent. There are ways to help and put it in a way that is sensitive to those thoughts. If you are trying to help with the kids, offering to plan an outing for your family and their family, and keep it as an open invitation. This way, you arent accusing anything, youre just trying to be helpful [while remaining] diplomatic and leaving them a choice [to accept or decline]. Dr Santosh
Posted on: Sat, 01 Feb 2014 10:06:57 +0000
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