5 Ways to Find Closure From the Past Actions that help you move into your future Published on April 6, 2011 by Abigail Brenner, M.D. in In Flux 18 inShare email The ending of a significant piece of ones life -- a relationship, a job, a stage of life, or a way of thinking -- may be difficult and even painful for many of us. Something that you once counted on as very important to your life is over and done. Closure means finality; a letting go of what once was. Finding closure implies a complete acceptance of what has happened and an honoring of the transition away from whats finished to something new. In other words, closure describes the ability to go beyond imposed limitations in order to find different possibilities. So how do we do it? What are the essential ways to find closure from the past? 1.) Take full responsibility for yourself. Its ultimately up to you to take the necessary actions to help move you forward. Have conversations with yourself, both asking and answering your own questions in a form of a self-dialogue. What or whom are you holding onto? Why? Does holding on truly make you happy, or are you hanging on to a situation the way it once was, or the way you wished it had been, instead of how it actually turned out? Are you using this holding on as an excuse to stay stuck and unresolved? In other words, is dwelling in the past taking you away from moving toward your future? Are you trying to avoid dealing with loss and the void that loss creates? If youre willing to let go, what does that really mean? What will you have to do? Are you afraid of not knowing what the outcome will be? Ultimately, what do you believe will happen to you if you let go? Being as honest as you can be will pay off in the long run. The pain, hurt, anger, and disappointment will diminish once youve cleared the way to a better, more realistic understanding of the situation.
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