5 tips for Anger Management 1) Realize that Allah has created all of us with a variety of emotions so feeling anger is normal. However, when anger gets in the way of maintaining relationships and moving forward in the work we seek to do for His sake, this needs to be addressed. Remember, the Prophet (S) said, The strong man is not the one who can overpower others. Rather, the strong man is the one who controls himself when he gets angry. [Ahmad] 2) Consider what you are really feeling. Oftentimes, there is more happening beneath the surface than just feelings of anger. Sometimes we react in anger when we have been hurt because it makes us feel more powerful than dealing with feelings of sadness, disappointment, embarrassment, etc. so consider what underlying emotion you are experiencing. 3) Work on identifying patterns by reflecting on times when you become angry. Ask yourself: What happened just now that upset me so much? What did the other person say that made me angry? How did I react when I felt angry (yelling, sighing loudly, escaping the situation instead of working to resolve it)? 4) Focus on what you feel physically before you react angrily. Do you feel heat rise through your body? Do your fists clench? Does your head start to pound? Identifying these early signs can help you to take steps to avoid overreacting angrily in a situation. Focusing on these and tuning into your body can also help you to calm down. 5) Before you react angrily to someone or to a situation, try a few of these techniques: The Prophet (S) said, “If any of you becomes angry and he is standing, let him sit down, so that his anger will go away. If it does not go away, let him lie down.” [Ahmad] Slowly recite something- some people count to ten but reciting Qur’aan is even better. Ensure you begin with seeking refuge with Allah (swt) as the Prophet (S) said, “If a man gets angry and says: I seek refuge with Allah, his anger will go away. [Sahih al-Jami] Choose a mantra to recite to yourself during times of stress such as, “Allah (swt) will never give me more than I can handle so I’m strong enough to deal with this calmly.” Take deep breaths from your stomach (not from your chest) and imagine all of the anger dissipating as you slowly let out each breath. - Almaghrib Institute.
Posted on: Wed, 19 Mar 2014 22:04:04 +0000
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