52/365 “We tend to overvalue the things we can measure and undervalue the things we cannot.” ― John Hayes Paul and I believed this and invested our lives heavily in things of the heart. I have measured the days, weeks, hours and minutes of this last year..... I have found that time, all 8760 hours; 525,000 minutes and over 30 million seconds.... while measurable and measured did not change the value of presence...nor did it lesson the pain of loss since Paul left. Neither did it help me to understand or control my outcome...paraphrased by both Hewlett (of HP fame) and Peter Drucker. (If you cant measure it, you cant improve it.) Unconditional and un-judgemental love, patience, and kindness made and make a difference on the darkest day by those willing to give it in the hour that the waves crash on every fiber of a grieving persons soul. It is the difference that Christ himself spoke of, even as he spoke from the cross, where his last life blood marked the grain of wood that held him in his final hours. Truths: The pain of loss is neither greater or less because of a social or financial standing. This pain....is without measure. It cant be measured because of age, relationship, or manner of loss/death. Know this, neither can it be discounted because of time...time in my opinion is not a healer of loss. While death is not eternal for those who receive salvation....the separation is loss...it is painful...the pain is neither a measure for Christianity or faithfulness.....it is loss, it is personal and painful. The responsibility that we have to each other is based on unmeasurable realities. Love each other. Forgive each other. Do not keep count or score. Paul Bickford died without regret. I live with a torn soul...but no regrets. We did not keep score of failures! Any competition that we had, was never with each other! Be kind. I have worked diligently and painfully to share with my friends and family very private feelings as I have measured a time of unspeakable loss. My desire has been to encourage each of those that I love....to love, and let God, be God...He is the judge, not me, not you. Treat the love of your life....like the love of your life. I would not trade the LOVE...of my life....for anything. Be kind to one another. IWCNM
Posted on: Fri, 11 Apr 2014 06:53:28 +0000
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