8 January. I meant to start this year off with a post a day but to be truthful my first big one this year completely exhausted me. It has been requested I finish off the first one with my follow up. So here goes. I talked about how sometimes we start off new relationships not being honest with those we have just met. Not being honest about not only ourselves but not discussing things that differ from our own beliefs and opinions and wind up living a lie in the relationship. We like this person so much or think they would be upset with us that you go to a point that you are afraid you will lose them if you finally tell the truth. This is why I think a relationship should start off being honest with each other because there is a point when truths be told could drastically affect the outcome. Some have carried these over into serious relationships and even married trying to live a life they had painted. I believe the people that do this start to build up resentments or discontent with themselves because they have allowed this to go on and can not see a way out of the predicament with out some sort of loss. For some they see the only way out is to create situations in which they can feel better about themselves. Some do come forward and the outcome can be from forgiveness to devastation of the relationship. The other point I would like to make is even when we start a relationship off truthfully sometimes we slip into someone elses expectations of what a marriage should be. Some have been known to live in a marriage that would meet their parents expectations. They live a life in which they were taught it should be and not what it really is. I am even guilty of trying to be the man of the house and make sure everything is just hunky dorey and not a thing should be worried about. That I would take care of things by making sure everything is fixed and running like a top. That I as a man take care of everything financially and the kingdom be secure. We all are guilty in some form or manner. But its important to nip it in the bud the moment we feel a resentment building or that frustration of realizing what you were taught is not the reality of it. It is a constant change, especially in this day and age of technology. This is no longer your mom and pops world. The values may be the same, but the way to get them across is different. We must evolve so that our children will learn to do the same so by the time they have children they too can teach their children. At the rate this world is changing our children will struggle to keep up just as bad as we are. Teach them to evolve, teach them the basics. Love, tolerance, forgiveness and honor. So that when they grow up they can say, Love Yall Mean It.
Posted on: Thu, 08 Jan 2015 21:09:30 +0000
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