A BRIEF ADVICE TO MY SISTERS A specific advice to my dear Muslim sisters: If you want to visit your relatives or your Muslim sisters, carefully select the day and the hour of your visit and its duration. There are appropriate and inappropriate times for paying visits even to relatives and friends. Do your best to make the visit a nice, brief, and pleasant one. Avoid turning it into a boring, wearisome, inquisitive and lengthy visit. Instead, it should be a visit whose purpose is to rekindle and nourish an old friendship or kinship. The visit is desirable if it is short and considerate, and it is undesirable if it is long and tedious during which conversation moves from being purposeful and valuable to being aimless and useless. The honourable follower Mohammed ibn Shihab Al-Zuhri said: When a meeting becomes too long, Satan increasingly participates in it. Make sure that during a visit that most, if not all of your talk, is of value and benefit. Keep away form backbiting, gossip, and idle talk. Astute Muslim women do not have time for such nonsense 19 THE MANNERS OF CONVERSATION 4.1 SELECTING SUITABLE TOPICS In Sura Al-Haj, Allah described the believers And they have been guided to the purest of speeches; and guided to the path of Him who is worthy of all praise. When you talk during your visit, say only what fits the situation and be brief. If you are the youngest among those sitting, dont speak unless you are asked to, or unless you know that your speech and words will be well received and will please the host and other guests. Dont prolong your speech. Use a proper tone of voice. Anas reported that the Prophets talk was clear and concise. Not too much nor too little. He disliked loquacity and ranting. Bukhari narrated a Hadith in which Aisha said The Prophets talk [was so little] that you can count his words. If you hear the Azan you must listen and respond to the call of Allah. Many people, even those with Islamic knowledge continue talking while the Azan is being called. This is rude, since those hearing the Azan should listen to it and quit speech, study and even Quran recitation. Solemnly they should repeat the words of the Azan and reflect on the words of this highest call. We should listen to the Azan, whether we are at home, office, shop, or attending a lesson, even if it is a religious lesson. Imam Al-Kasani in Badaiu Al-Sanaei said: Those hearing the Azan or Iqama should not talk. Even if reading Quran or doing other noble things, everything should be stopped to listen and respond to the Azan. The Azan is the food of the soul nourishing it with faith and elevation. Do not forgo your share of it. Teach this to your children and friends. Al-Bukhari narrated a Hadith by Abu Saeed Al-Khudri that the Prophet, peace be upon him, said: If you heard the call say like what the Muezzin is saying. In another Hadith reported by Jaber that the Prophet said He deserves my help on the day of judgment who said when hearing Azan: O Allah, the Lord of this perfect call and imminent prayer, please award Mohammad the help, nobility, and the desired status you promised him. Imam Abdul Razaq narrated in his Musanaf that Ibn Juraig said: I was told that people used to listen to Azan like they would listen to recitation of Quran. They would repeat after the Muezzin. If he said: come to prayer, they will say: with the help and power of Allah. If he said: come to the good deed, they will say: with the will of Allah.
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