A Son is Born On November 19, 1985 a son was born to a couple in Louisville, Ky. His father loved him so much he gave him his own name, the names of his father and grandfathers. The son was born early and the pediatrician said he would not give a plug nickel for his chances of living. Yet his father prayed and the son survived, thus starting a journey of a father and son. There were many things this father and son faced. Emergency room visits where his mother didn’t show up and parent teacher conferences, ball games, Boy Scouts and more where the father gladly went alone so the son would have someone there to cheer him on or take his side, no matter what the father took time. Meanwhile the mother did her own thing, bragging on how good her son was but not investing the time it took to help him turn out to be a good person. The mother hated the son and his father so much that according to his own admission the son said she would sit in the bathroom across the hall from his room at night and pray for him and his father to die. The father worked hard to give the son what he could. While in college the father took a full course load and worked up to 100 hours a week just to see there was a roof over his son’s head, food on the table and clothes on his back, The mother not wanting to have a son that wasn’t dressed in designer clothes because she would be embarrassed did kick in and pay the difference out of a need to satisfy her own vanity. She would have been embarrassed for her son to wear clothes from Wal-Mart.,Target or Kmart. The things the father could afford. As time went on the mother and father separated and the father got custody of the son. The mother said she wanted to try to work things out and the father let her come home against the son’s pleading to not let his mother come back. This attempt failed where again the father got custody of the son. This time the father knew the best thing was for him to move away from the mother because the mother would cause trouble if he stayed in state. The father moved back to Kentucky but the son asked permission to stay with his mother to finish high school. The father had to get a five year DVO against the mother to stop harassment and death threats by the mother after moving 1300 miles away. The father consented because he did not want to uproot the son at the end of his high school years. Yet when the son called and said he had enough of his mother and wanted to live with the father the father went to Maine and brought him back to Kentucky. The son then 4 days later decided he was mad at his father because he wanted the father to take him right back home, his girlfriend was cheating on him. The father refused because it was his last year before turning eighteen and the father thought they needed that time together. When he did return the girlfriend had nothing to with him just as his father told him it would be. Later the mother sued the father for an inheritance he received after the divorce. The father won the court decision and the son, thinking his mother should have won told the father who had loved him so, “Dad I never want to see you, talk to you or hear from you again.” The father told him, “Son, you are eighteen years old you have made this decision as a man. You will have to live with it as a man. I will not ring your phone or darken your door step. If you ever change your mind I will be here, but you will have to come back as a man in humility and apologize like a man.” The son never has. Now the son is getting married. Hopefully the son has found a mate for life and they will have children and they will be healthy and grow up strong and smart. But the son is doing something he thinks is hurting the father. Out of contempt for the father he is taking the wives last name. To the father it makes no matter. To him the son is dead because he has been told the son’s bride to be thinks the father is dead. But the son is cutting all ties with a family that respects their elders that sees the son giving up his name as a slap in the face of its forefathers. Either way the father wishes the bride to be much happiness and God’s blessing. To the son and his bride the not so deceased father wishes to give this poem as a wedding present: To Let Go Takes Love To let go does not mean to Stop Caring. It means I can’t do it for Someone else To let go is not to enable, But to allow Learning from natural Consequences. To let go is to admit Powerlessness, which Means the outcome is not in My hands. To let go is not to care for, but To care about. To let go is not to Judge, But to allow another to be him or herself. To let go is not to be in the Middle arranging all the Outcomes But to allow others to Determine their own destinies. To let go is not to be less Protective, it is to permit Another to face reality. To let go is not to dominate But to be willing to let things Happen. To let go means to fear less, And to love more. Author Unknown. I hope my son will one day realize that the only people he is hurting by his actions is himself, his soon to be wife and children. Before it is too late I pray he tells his wife the truth or she reads this letter. It is a horrible thing to start a marriage on lies. Please help share this letter so maybe the truth will be known and this marriage will have a chance. A marriage built on a lie is sure to fail. Signed the Father, William M. Moss, Sr.
Posted on: Tue, 17 Sep 2013 15:24:20 +0000
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