A crying child is not necessarily an abused child. For example, my daughter is crying because shes pissed off at me because I wont buy her a toy. She isnt getting her way, so shes trying to arouse my sympathy in the hopes I will change my mind. She is also arousing *your* sympathy, hoping you will shame me into giving in to her. Which three of you tried to do in Costco yesterday. And I found myself explaining the situation to one of you. Defending myself from your appalled looks. See...I get it. I do. A crying child sets off a chemical and emotional response to the people around them. And I will never deny that some children are crying because they really are being abused. Its hard for all of you because you dont know the situation, the family, or the child, and you may feel the need to intervene somehow. I dont know what is the right thing to do in the case of abuse. But in the case of Im-pissed-off-because-Im-not-getting-my-way, you are reinforcing her belief that I am mean and she should have all the things. I know you mean well, and that you care, and that is awesome. But the next time you ask yourself whats wrong with kids today?? Why cant they take responsibility for their actions? Why do they think they should have everything handed to them?? I want you to remember this moment and ask yourself what part you may have played. Parenting is not done in a vacuum.
Posted on: Wed, 17 Sep 2014 14:42:40 +0000
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