A long post, but a good one. "There is no way of getting a unified response – of promising survivors forgiveness – which doesn’t involve asking or demanding that some people ignore their own boundaries. There is nothing new or transformative in arguing that survivors and those who care about their abuse, should not have boundaries because other people believe that the man has changed....I believe that part of being OK with an abusive man, has to be accepting that other people may not be OK and respecting their boundaries. To pressure women to be OK, act OK, or pretend to be or act OK around a man who has been abusive towards woman, is a profoundly anti-feminist act. That pressure cannot be part of anything that is truly justice, or truly transformative."
Posted on: Wed, 14 Aug 2013 20:24:48 +0000