A person exhibiting the “Poor Me Syndrome” gets you to believe that you have deeply wounded them in an attempt to take the focus off their own behavior. I had no idea how popular this tactic was until I got nearly 100,000 views on this article in 18 months. Emotionally abusive people have an uncanny ability to play the victim and get others to feel sorry for them. This leaves you feeling that you have to take care of this person and that you have no right to have any expectations in the relationship. People with co-dependent personalities fall into this type of pattern pretty naturally. How to Know When You Are Being Manipulated It can be very difficult to realize that someone is taking advantage of you, especially when it is by someone you know well and love. This may be the way you have always interacted, and so it can be hard to start calling someone on his behavior. The thing about living in close proximity with an emotional abuser is that your mind can become clouded and your thinking distorted. • If the same scenarios seem to continuously resurface, someone who is not as close to the situation may be able to help you see things more objectively. • If you catch someone in the act of trying to play the victim, let him know what you see. I recall waking up one morning to a note from my ex that said, “I do nothing but hurt you, and would be better off hanging myself in the garage.” Now, I am not suggesting that all threats of suicide are only ploys to emotionally manipulate someone, but I knew exactly what he was doing. Narcissists think far too highly of themselves to actually commit suicide. I told him to stop it. The note happened to come after a particularly rough exchange the night before in which I had let out all of the hurt I had kept to myself for years. His response was to threaten suicide in an attempt to get me to feel sorry for him and never express a negative emotion again. This illustrates how his sympathy was not for me but for himself. My emotional pain was never even acknowledged.
Posted on: Thu, 25 Jul 2013 21:17:52 +0000
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