A story about a marriage meeting in Islam........ ........ Once there was a very handsome,pious,well educated young man,whose parents emphasized for him to get married.They had seen so many marriage proposals,and he had turned them all down.The parents thought it was become a little ridiculous or suspected that he may have someone else in mind. However everytime the parents left the girls house,the young man would always sayshes not that one !The young man only wanted a girl who was religious and practicing.(Which was hard to find) howver one evening her mother arranged for him,to meet a girl,who was religious and practicing. One that evening,the young man and girl were left to talk and ask each other question(as one would expect) The young man,being as gentleman that,he was allowed ,young lady to ask first. Young girl asked the young man so many question.She asked about his life,his education,his friend,his family,his habits,his hobbies,his life style,his enjoyment,his time pass ,his experiance,his shoe size and his likes and dislikes.Basically everything! And the young man replied to all of her questions without tiring and politely with a smile.Young girl took up nearly all of the time,over an hour and felt bad and asked the young man do you have any questions? Young man said,yes only have 3 questions.......... Young girl thought,wow,only 3 questions okay go ahead,and shoot. Young mans first question was(1) Who do you love the most in the world,someone whos love nothing would ever overcome? She said,this is an easy question!Answer to your question is my Mother. Young man smiled and asked second question,(2) You said that you read a lot of Quran could you tell me which Surahs you know the meaning of? Hearing this she went red and embarrased and said I do not know that meaning of any yet,but I am hoping to soon Inshaallah I have just been a bit busy. The third question the young man asked,was(3) I have been approached for my hand in marriage,by girls that are lot more prettier than you,why should I marry you?Hearing this,the young girl was outraged,she stormed off to her parents with fury and said I do not want to marry this man he is insulting my beauty and intelligence. And the young man and his parents were once again,left without an agreement of marriage.This time,the young mans parents were really angry and said what did you do to anger that young girl,the family was so nice and pleasants,and they were religious like you wanted.What did you ask the girl?Tell us! Young man said,firstly I asked her,who do you love the most?She said her mother.The parents siad so,what is wrong with that? Young man said.no one,is Muslim,until he loves Allha(SWT) and his Mesenger more than anyone else in the world.If woman loves Allah(SWT) and his Holy prophet Muhammad(pbuh) more than anyone,she will love me and respect me and stay faithful to m,because of that love is greater than lust for beauty. Young man said,I asked,you read a lot Quran ,can you tell me the meaning of any Surah?And she said no because I havnt had time yet.So I remembered the sayings of Imam Safii,All humans are dead except those who have knowledge are asleep,except those who do good deeds.....And those who are sincere...and those who are sincere are always in the state of worry(for others). She has lived 20 yearz on this earth and not found anytime,to seek knowledge,why would I marry a woman,who does not know her rights and responsibilities and what will she teach my children,except how to be negligent,because the woman is the Madrash(school) and the best of teachers.And a woman who had no time for Allah(SWT), will not have time for the husband. Third question I asked her was,that a lot of girls,more prettier than her,had approached me for marriage,why should I choose her?That is why she stormed off ,getting angry. Young mans parents said that is horrible thing to say,why would you do such a thing ;we are going back there to apologize.Young man said I said this on purpose ,to test whether she could control her anger. Holy Prophet Muhammad(pbuh)saidDo not get angry,do not get angry,do not get angryrepeatedly when asked how to become pious,because anger is from Satan. So,the moral of this stoey is,a marriage is based on:knowledge,forgiveness not anger,spiritual love not lust and compromise! One should look for a person,who (1)Has love for Allah(SWT)and his messenger(2Had knowledge deen(religion),and can act upon it (3) can control her anger and another important and crucial factor that she be(4) willing to compromise. And it goes both ways,so women seeking a man,should look for the same things. May Allah(SWT) make every marriage a success and let us create love for Allah and his Messenger so that Allah(SWT) can bless us,and create love in our lives. nd Some of his questions are also applicable on Men.
Posted on: Thu, 21 Aug 2014 03:35:40 +0000
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