ADVICE TO THE LOVELORN!!!! Seems like there have been a lot of grumblings due to poor choices of sweeties. Here is a edited article I saw recently. It was originally from a gals standpoint but I edited it to make it be fair. Dont tell my wife though, she might want me to follow this advice! First thing to know before reading this that you have should these same values yourself! Otherwise you are simply a hypocrite and don’t deserve someone if you can’t make the effort to be that decent yourself. Wish as we might-and despite what romantic comedies would have you believe-there is no magic answer to finding the perfect mate. Discovering if someone is the right one for you usually takes some time. Although we may wish to act solely on instinct-which can be helpful in determining if he/she is the right one-it is important to give it time before reaching that final decision. While there is no set-in-stone policy for finding love, there are 5 signs you can use to determine if he/she is the one. Sign #1 He/she Is the Right One - You Respect One Another When it comes to figuring out if he/she is the right one, respect should be at the top of the list. Respect is also something that should go both ways. He/she should respect you and you should respect him/her, in turn. You can tell he/she respects you when: • He/she is willing to compromise • He/she listens to your concerns and feelings • He/she notices when something is wrong and asks you about it • He/she values your opinion • He/she appreciates you • He/she is genuinely happy for you when you succeed Sign #2 He/she Is the Right One - He/she Has the Qualities Youre Looking For Ideally, you should know ahead of time what qualities are important to you in a mate. Trying to figure it out after the fact can lead to serious problems. If you have a good idea of the qualities you are looking for-the ones that are the most important-it will help you determine if he/she is the right one. It helps to write a list. Select at least 10 qualities you are looking for in a man. Put that list in the order of importance. Take a serious look at the list and cross off any qualities that arent so important. Some qualities are probably negotiable. If that is the case, they can likely be removed from the list. The idea is to get down to at least the top 5 non-negotiable qualities that you are looking for. Sign #3 He/she Is the Right One - You Share the Same Values What do you value most? What values make up the life you have chosen to live? These are important questions to ask yourself, as they will help determine if he/she is the right one for you. Values are usually in-line with those non-negotiable items that will give you a clue as to whether or not he/she is the right one. If you dont share the same values, consider that to be a red flag. Sign #4 He/she Is the Right One - Your Intuition Tells You Your intuition-your gut-should never be ignored. At the same time, it should never be THE deciding factor. Your intuition should serve as a guide, something you rely on when considering whether or not he/she is the right one. Intuition is more than just how physically attracted you are towards him/her. (In case this is hard to understand, it kind of means don’t let stirrings in your genitalia be the entire deciding factor). It goes beyond that to a place deep inside where you just seem to know. Its usually just a sense or a feeling that this person is the right one. Sign #5 He/she Is the Right One - You Can Be Yourself With Him/her You will not be appreciated or valued by a man who tries to change you or who cannot love you, flaws and all. So if you can be who you are when you are with him/her, he/she might just be the right one for you. This means he/she not only accepts the good in you, but also your weaknesses and faults. When you can be yourself, you will experience a sense of freedom. You will have confidence in knowing that he/she accepts you just as you are. When taking these 5 signs into consideration, you will have a good idea if he/she is actually the right guy/gal for you. Sooo, my idea is, here is a simple guideline that is easy to understand so there should be no more whining about bad relationships since it is your choice who you are with! Unless you are from a foreign country that has arranged marriages.
Posted on: Sat, 01 Feb 2014 16:40:30 +0000
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