AFTER SUICIDE (post 2 of 8) Denial & feelings of shock,guilt anger & depression are often a normal part of grief reactions, but are especially heightened when a child has died by suicide. Though difficult to accept,it is not unusual to experience feelings of relief if the relationship with the child was stressful or destructive to the family unit. The suicide of ones child raises painful questions, doubts & fears. The knowledge that your love was not enough to save your child & the fears that others will judge you to be an unfit parent may raise powerful feelings of failure. Realize that as a parent you gave your child what makes us human- the positive & the negatives- and what your child did with that information was primarily your childs decision. It isnt uncommon for newly bereaved parents to express thoughts of suicide,regardless of how their child died.Remember that suicide is not inherited. Be patient with yourself &your family & seek professional help if necessary. The stigma often associated with suicide is the result of cultural & religious interpretations of an earlier time. You will find it difficult to progress in your bereavement unless you confront the word suicide,difficult as it may be. Keeping the cause of death a secret will deprive you of the joy of speaking about your child and may isolate you from family & friends who want to support you. Rather than focusing on the stigma surrounding suicide,concentrate on your own healing & survival.
Posted on: Fri, 16 Jan 2015 20:01:29 +0000
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