ANOTHER SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE ACADEMY (March 16, 2014) The theme for this session: 4 Foundational Laws of Marriage Marriage can appear very scary when it seems like it is luck or chance that it will be good or bad. Those not married have mixed feelings. There is a desire to find a wife or husband, but a fear of a life of misery and dissatisfaction. Understandable, after witnessing the fate of people close to them. It seems to be unpredictable and no guarantees. But,this doesnt have to be. God created Marriage for success. He intended for couples to experience happiness. The truth is- marriage is not a gamble, if you understand that God established a few unchanging laws or rules about marital relationships that will guarantee success if followed. Problems manifest when one of the 4 laws are violated. When trouble arises, check to see if one or both partners are violating a rule. 1. The Law of Priority- marriage requires re- prioritizing your relationship. Whatever or whoever took first place in your life before marriage must change. Besides God, your marriage and your mate must become first. Each partner has to communicate to the other that he or she is first. We prove that our husband or wife is first by our willingness to sacrifice for the marriage. God takes the number one place. Our personal relationship with God first, then the marriage (the couple ), after come the children and family, then work and Church ... There is a godly, legitimate jealousy when your mate feels less important than anything or anyone besides God. 2. The Law of Pursuit- you must pursue with the same passion during the dating season. Dont work hard to get your mate then work less after the chase is over. Put on your best performance after the wedding. Show your best side. Leave and cleave means to cling with enthusiasm. You must work on your marriage everyday. For men- Men think in terms of a point system. We men tend to think our special gifts and sacrifices last for a life time. WRONG. Examples of our point system: Flowers and a card- big points Go on a date- a few points Sacrifice a game or night with the guys- major love points Washing dishes or cleaning up- valuable points We think that those gifts and acts of kindness win us a lot of appreciation time with our mate NO. The video we watched taught us that all points evaporate over night. Flowers, cards, a ring, dating are all thoughtful , BUT!!!! Marriage is not summarized in one act of love. It has to be worked on daily. Marriage is a lifestyle of building and strengthening and working on everyday. Daily sacrificing, daily communication efforts, daily love. 3. The Law of Possession- God created marriage to be a time to share everything. Determine to do things together. Do not isolate your partner. 1st Corinthians 7- give your partner full ownership of you and those things that belong to you, especially your children (especially if a blended family). The non- biological parent should have input in the discipline of the children if needed. Neither partner has the right to withhold or control intimacy or the bedroom to punish the other for speaking out or making unfavorable decisions. 4. The Law of Purity- be transparent. Sin and violating other rules of marriage, will cause people to cover up their true self. The fig leaf like in the Garden of Eden becomes a source of covering shame and nakedness. Openness and honesty are critical. . If your partner shares sensitive, heartfelt information about him or herself, dont use that information to abuse him/her later. It creates distrust.Distrust destroys sincerity and leads to games and secrets. Keep your relationship pure and innocent God is a God of order and excellence, and He designed marriage, as with all of nature to follow His divine laws of creation This is just a small portion of what was shared, taught and discussed at the Academy. You would have grown spiritually, mentally and in your relationship Faith in God Restoration Church MCCROREY YMCA 3801 BEATTIES FORD RD CHARLOTTE NC JOIN US FOR OUR MARRIAGE ACADEMY 1st and 3rd Sundays At 1:30 pm Sunday Morning Service Time: 10:15 am
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