After leaving a bad situation whether it is in family, friendships, relationships, business, whatever and after having your moment of being pissed (you are entitled to your moment), there comes a time where you have to get back up. Once up though, before you dive into another or swear to not trust anyone, take a moment and go back into that situation (no not to rehash how wrong they did you, you already had that moment) to grab the lessons from that situation. What can learn from it? What did that situation show you that you are willing to put up with and what are your deal breakers, things that you will not put up with. What part did you play in the situation because yes, even when we are wronged, the mess of another person can still mirror to us our mess as well? What did it teach you about yourself? What did it bring out of you that you didnt like about you, confront those issues and change them? What did it bring out of you that you liked, embrace that and strengthen those qualities? Where did it led you now good and bad and decided can you afford to have it happen again. What did you learn about that person, people? There are so many things to ask yourself and the focus is not always on them or that but you. You have to be willing to do the work, be honest, and grab the lesson whatever it may be. This way next time, you will be wiser, you will be healed, you wont be bitter, you wont be desperate, you wont be so easily influenced, you will be stronger, you will be confident, you will have a greater understanding of things, you know your worth and value, you know what you will put up with and what you will not put up with and if you settle, you know how it will make you feel and how you will react, and you will be you but a better you. Then you will begin to attract those that are like you now and not you back then. Because if you find yourself in the same situation time after time, with different people (or the same person) and different times in your life, you can blame them, because yes they are accountable but so are you because you never got to the root of you and the situation prior. You cant keep claiming victim when you keep volunteering to a position that has the same benefits as before or lack thereof. Yeah it may be them or they or that but please believe it is you too!!
Posted on: Fri, 26 Sep 2014 17:27:42 +0000
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