Ahh, today I am thankful for what I have, what I’ve accomplished in my life and what I am. I am a ferociously loyal person, pretty sensitive, not very beautiful by today’s standards on the outside, but I am very beautiful on the inside. I have personal and civic ethics which I intensely guard, to the detriment of people and efforts that mean a great deal to me, but my own standards won’t allow me to abide. I am exploring what I see as a new phenomena in our culture that I don’t understand very well and am hoping to get some input from others who may have seen this, been a part of it, or are currently engaging in this behavior and thought process. Okay this is it. I am bewildered by the behavior of human competition when it relates to relationships. I see daughter-in-laws in unrealistic competition for their spouses sole attention, which is resolved through gift giving (monitory not time wins ); I see grandparents in competition for their grandchild’s approval and “love,” (monitory and not time wins this approval) not only from the children but from the parents as well; I see children of split parents using gift giving from each parent as a gauge in which to measure the value of each parent in their lives. I have seen the “secret” acknowledgement from the getters who think it is mighty fun to receive these competitive gifts and plan for the competitors who vie for their “attention and approval. (I’ve seen this behavior in co-workers, children, etc…) In other words they chortle behind the givers backs and wonder what they will be getting next. I suppose I am wondering why people engage in this type of competition. Does it fulfill their need to be appreciated and loved? I really don’t know the answer to that and am hoping you can shed light on this, to me empty of gratitude, loyalty, and honest to goodness uncaring, phenomena.
Posted on: Sat, 30 Nov 2013 19:52:43 +0000
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