Alex has a lot of trouble getting up in the morning . She asked me to pour water on her head in the morning. So I basically put 2 tablespoons of water on her forhead. Basically a baptismal.... She didnt wake up... I told her to get up. She got up but refused to get ready I had her walk out side for a second to see if the cold would get her up she ran back inside and got under the blankets again.. I bagged her. I pleaded with her I even offered her a cat if she would make it to school on time. Finally I told her I was going to spank her if she didnt get ready for school I counted to 5 then I gave her a a small painless swat. Finally we got there 7 mins late I went in to sign her in and she annouces that my mom spanked me and pourd water on me I was so embarrassed. I dont really even believe in spanking unless its as a last and final resort and I personally hate doing it. But I couldnt have her miss any more days or be late anymore for school. I dont know what to do anymore. Shes doesnt listen to me. She doesnt respect me. Its like shes turned into a back talking teenager. I feel like Im failing as a mother. And running out of options. She lIves in a house where she is loved and cared for. There is food in the kitchen and books on the shelf. Video games and tv. We have a playground just right out side. I threw her an awesome birthday party. I talk to her (try too) I ask her about her feelings and play with her and explain when and why some things are not right and what things are good. There is positive reinforcement and negative consequences in this house. (Grounding from tablets, other privileges etc...) she even started meetin with a therapist once a week. What am I doing wrong? She yells at me, lies to me, wont mover when its time to go. Sometimes ito even hard to get herror jus to brush her hair. Its not really anything new bit it is getting harderrors and harder as the years go by. Recently she even got in trouble at school for picking on another girl. Why doesnt she know thats its not ok to do that? I dont know. Do I just totally suck at being a mom or are these the normal struggles of parenthood? Everywhere else I look seems like parents really have it together and know what theyou are doing. Before having kids I was greal with them. I babysat and always instinctively knew what to do. I could get kids to pick up afree themselves, calm them down if they had a tantrum, keep play organized and fun get them to sit down to read books and talk. I even thought abut becoming a child psychiatrist because it felt like something I would be good at but with her its like she just doesnt care about any of that. Its like she hates me. I really feel like a failure. I want my daughter to grow to her full potential and I feel like Im letting her down. Its like we speak different languages. I dont know how to communicate these things and how I want the best for her without her rolling her eyes at me or yellin that Im mean and a jerk. Does she blame me for her dad not being here?
Posted on: Mon, 17 Nov 2014 15:59:44 +0000