Although I just started this facebook page yesterday I have been consuming myself doing research and reading all of your stories and pages. I will NEVER forget what my ex did to me, but it has faded. Which I am thankful for. My children and I have become stronger people because of the cards we were thrown for so many years. A lot has happened to me in the past three years.....I had my ex arrested...In that year I had many sleepless nights and a gazzilion court dates....ANd trust me, three years later he still drags me into court to keep things going. But through it all I started dating again, met an amazing man, moved myself and the kids to Long Island, and had the back yard wedding of my dreams with my closest friends and family. It was an extremely emotional day with vows that had more meaning than any thoughts Ive ever had in my life. But with that being said, my biggest milestone is hitting me and will be here in two days. My oldest son is 18 now. He was affected the most by what he witnessed his whole life. He was in therapy for years but has become the greatest man in my life. If there is any advice I can give regarding children involved in situations like this, just love them up and try your hardest not to bring them into the middle of what is happening. You dont realize the anxiety as children they are already suffering. I have always made it a point to NEVER talk negative about their father or ask questions or use them as pawns in the middle of our debates. A very wise woman, my therapist told me that kids are smart and will figure it all out and their own....And my kids have done just that..... So with that being said, my son is leaving for his first year of college on Sunday. A feat I was not so sure I could accomplish for him because of finances. But we worked hard and did our research....We know about every grant, scholarship, and financial aid assistance program out there...And to top it all of, he got a $17,000 scholarship a year because of his SAT scores. Words can not express how proud I am of who this young man has become despite the struggles he has endured forever. I cry right now thinking of that hug I will give him before I walk away from that campus. But they are tears of pride and happiness. (I cry too though because I know he isnt going to know how to do his own laundry LOL) Please know, no matter where you are right now, how bad the abuse is, or if you are in the recovery phase......IT ALL WORKS OUT with hard work, great support systems, and most of all LOVE for your own life...... This video is of the best day of my life.....Just remember I was where many of you are now. I thought I was doomed for the rest of my life, but I finally saw the light and figured it out....
Posted on: Fri, 22 Aug 2014 13:50:44 +0000
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