Amara wrote: From Oga Jayuka Straight talk from an uncle {moi} to a niece willing to listen They dont like my bluntness, and yet they keep coming. Maybe they are seeing the results, and they also know that uncle Emenike will always protect their interest. I told them that boyfriend and girlfriend is only as good as your years in the university. Once out of the university, you are undermining yourself, if you are still having a boyfriend. Any boyfriend of yours in the university who didnt propose to you, or, promise you a ring with a time frame in mind, you must declare that relationship open; because he is not serious. Just because you are in Lagos is not an excuse to move in with a man who has not engaged you, or visited your parents; however, if for any reason you move in, within six months, if he has no serious plans for marriage, you will be insulting yourself if you continuing to live with him. As a man who has been privileged to travel a lot, it is my experience to say this.... any man that sees a woman he believes that he will not live without, like every hunter, he will go for her; and to guarantee himself of that privilege, he will even borrow money to buy a ring if he has to. The greatest fear a man has when he sees a woman he truly wants is , the possibility of other men seeing what he sees, and that is why men make their moves fast. Six months of relationship is enough for any man who actually is interested in a lady to propose; if he didnt do it after six months, trust me, if he has been thinking about it, he will have a discussion with the lady, and commit himself to a time. Many a times, men can get too comfortable with the gold they have, and only to wake up when it has already slipped away. If a woman cooks for you, and makes herself available without pressuring you, the tendency to keep it that way with confidence that she cannot see someone beside you can begin to creep in. You should be rather celibate than in a relationship that evolves into nothing. No matter how much you hang around a lady, it translates to nothing comparable to marriage if that woman wants to be married. To keep the heart of a woman for yourself, talk, and prayer meetings will not do it, put a ring on it, then she is all yours. Finally, once you meet the right person, things happen before you know it, and what you have been waiting to hear for years from your boyfriend, you heard within minutes from a guy who has no time to gamble with your emotions. Be prepared to receive offer of marriages from all your former boyfriends, even ordinary friends; because now that you are getting married, and they cannot do nothing about it, everyone wants to give you an impression that they were thinking about it; and it is your fault. As if you have not been hanging around them for years. My niece took this advice to the heart, and confronted the boyfriend of 18 months, and bluntly asked--which way are we going; the boyfriend didnt see a reason for a rush, after all, he was getting everything free; but because my niece distanced herself from him even withing their friendship cycle in Lagos, she is now doing her traditional marriage in five days with a young man who lives in Abuja; he was looking for a wife , not a girlfriend, and he found a lady looking for a husband, not a boyfriend. As for me, i am the happiest person , because i am happy for them, but it will cost me some money too as an uncle.... chei lolooo.
Posted on: Sat, 12 Jul 2014 17:53:07 +0000
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