An exercise that can help a person to remember or define their own boundaries and add energy to the healing process: Pay more attention to details, and do it in a serene, non-reactive way. Pay attention to road signs and traffic laws, whether driving, biking, or walking or running. Pay closer attention to rules at school or work. Pay closer attention to rules of conduct in places of gathering or community, such as clubs, libraries, worship places, and in ones own home, and other peoples homes. Obey the rules and laws, and pay attention to ones own emotional reactions about obeying the rules and laws. Start the process of letting go of ones own emotional reactions to rules and laws, and obeying them or not obeying them. Pay attention to ones own thoughts about whether OTHER people are obeying the rules and laws, and if ones thoughts include judgments about who should obey them and feel shame for breaking them, and who should be exempt from obeying them. Pay attention to whether ones thoughts include exemption or excuses for ones self about breaking certain rules and laws, and if so, whats behind that privilege belief. Start the process of paying attention to ones own behavior, thoughts, and emotions when one breaks a rule or law. Compare that to ones thoughts and emotions when various other people break a rule or a law. Simply paying attention to and obeying simply rules of conduct and traffic laws can help to identify and separate some of ones personal emotional reactions, biases, codependency issues and/or defensive reactions. And can help one to better distinguish separation from ones self and others. Even those who usually choose to obey most rules and laws can benefit from this exercise. Obeying or not obeying rules and laws is a choice, and this exercise can help the subconscious to remember that we are making our own choices every day, (even when we feel like we have no choice). Letting go of the emotional reactions about choosing to obey or not to obey traffic laws or rules of conduct, REGARDLESS of those around us, helps the mind clarify the difference between choice of action and emotional reaction. It can also help in clarifying why we are being treated a certain way by someone else; are they reacting to something we really did that was inconsiderate, hurtful, or wrong, or are they being controlling and reactive?
Posted on: Fri, 23 Jan 2015 21:52:10 +0000
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