And then I stumbled upon this: Narcissists! Heard every alarm bell & ignored them all. Twat! Never again. Still smiling though! :-) Do have a read lovely peeps. Could save you a proper ball ache! :-) -Has a grandiose sense of self-importance, exaggerating their abilities and achievements -Has persistent fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love -Believes that he or she is “special” and unique and should only associate with people of the same status -Has a constant need for attention, affirmation and praise -Has a strong sense of entitlement and an expectation of special treatment -Is exploitative of others, taking advantage of them for personal gain -Lacks empathy for others -Is often envious of others or believes others are envious of them -Regularly shows arrogant or haughty behaviors and attitudes Unlike people with other personality disorders or behavioral problems, narcissists can easily slip by undetected because they don’t appear to be ‘sick’ or ‘mentally ill’- They just seem to have an over-inflated sense of self-importance, a relentless need for attention and a lack of empathy. When you first meet them or get to know them, they might seem fun, energetic, outgoing and just a little egotistical, but this may or may not raise red flags. After all, it’s good to have high self-esteem right? Often they can lure you into their inflated self-importance and grandiose schemes and before you realize it, you’ve become involved with someone whose presence may be toxic to your well-being. Perhaps one of the most troubling things about narcissistic personality disorder is that it can be very difficult to treat with therapy because the clients are often in denial or completely unwilling to accept that they have a disorder. If someone truly believes that he or she is special, more talented and superior, imagine how challenging it might be for a therapist to convince him or her otherwise. It is for this reason that people with narcissistic personality disorder rarely seek treatment, and usually only agree to therapy at the urging or friends or family members, or to treat other issues (such as anxiety or depression) that result from the disorder. And sadly many therapists also have to release their narcissistic patients when they reach an impasse and the patient believes they are fine and refuses to see the problem. And then the buggers are let loose on decent, loving human beings. Sigh!
Posted on: Wed, 17 Sep 2014 21:17:15 +0000