Are You an Earth Angel? Earth Angels are people who: • Are highly sensitive • Have a purity in their outlook on love and life, which others may call naïve • Believe in God’s loving power (but aren’t necessarily religious) • Are gentle and caring • See the best in others, including their hidden potentials • Are trusting and optimistic • Have been taken advantage of by those who use the Earth Angels’ niceness for their own gain • Have had painful relationship experiences, but still believe in true love and friendship • Cherish the magical parts of spirituality, such as manifestation, unicorns, fairies, mermaids, and the like • Feel called on a mission, with a sense of duty and stewardship toward others, including strangers • Want everyone to be happy • Are unhappy when others are upset • Believe in fairness Does that sound like you or someone you love? Everyone is God’s creation, and everyone has a purpose in life. Earth Angels are those who feel “sent” to Earth to bring about peace and create lasting positive change. Earth Angels use prayer, kindness, and love to help others. They can be any gender, lifestyle orientation, race, and religion. The common denominator is that Earth Angels feel compelled to help people and “make” them feel happy. In fact, they only feel happy when others are happy. In the ultimate sense, Earth Angels are performing an important mission collectively by walking around smiling and uplifting everyone with whom they come into contact. They are natural healers whose very presence heals people, animals, and plants. Earth Angels are highly connected with the Divine, and they’re naturally intuitive. In fact, they’re so connected that they’re frequently ungrounded, spacey, and forgetful. If you’re an Earth Angel, you’re obsessed with other people’s happiness. If anyone you love is unhappy, you become upset. You may blame yourself for his or her unhappiness, which creates the Earth Angel cycle of codependency, where your happiness is dependent upon another’s. And since you can’t control others’ happiness, you feel unable to predict or control your own, as it’s contingent upon someone else. Earth Angels are usually “conflict phobic,” meaning that they fear arguments and confrontations. Angry people are the opposite of happy people to an Earth Angel. So if faced with such an individual, Earth Angels will shut down and usually comply with the other person’s wishes, feeling at fault if someone is unhappy or angry. They feel like they’ve failed in their mission to bring happiness to others. As a result, Earth Angels will do practically anything to keep the peace! Their conflict phobia makes Earth Angels targets for manipulative people who take advantage of others’ niceness. Before they learn their earthly lesson about holding boundaries, Earth Angels usually fall under the spell of narcissistic individuals who only care about their own needs. (We’ll discuss this topic in depth throughout this book.) Earth Angels find themselves in a bind because their life purpose is to bring peace to the world. They are lights sent from heaven to shine peace and happiness and lift others’ consciousness and vibrations—so they’re usually the world’s kindest, nicest, and gentlest people! In fact, they pride themselves on being sweet in the roughest of situations (although Earth Angels do lose their tempers when pushed to their limit). Earth Angels view themselves as tough, even though they’re highly sensitive. They shoulder other people’s burdens and rarely ask for help. If help is offered, Earth Angels won’t accept it. They’re afraid of “bothering” anyone. An Earth Angel thinks: “If I allow this person to help me, I’m making him go to a lot of trouble, which might result in him feeling tired or sad. I don’t want to inflict that on another person, so I’ll just do everything myself.” Because Earth Angels can see everyone’s hidden potentials and inner light, they tend to overlook other people’s hurtful behavior—especially toward them. An Earth Angel will make excuses about someone who’s mistreating them, saying, “Oh she didn’t mean it . . . it wasn’t that bad,” or “He was just having a bad day.” The person who’s acting hurtfully doesn’t need to expend any effort in justifying him- or herself, because the Earth Angel does it for him or her! How are such people supposed to learn about the effects of their behavior if Earth Angels are constantly making excuses for them? How are others supposed to take responsibility for their lives, if Earth Angels are offering to do everything for them? As an Earth Angel, you’re here to bring more light into the world, not to enable people’s egocentric behavior! By constantly giving in all of your relationships, you may suffer from symptoms of imbalance, including: — Resentment: Feeling used for being nice, and not having the niceness reciprocated, you may find that the resentment builds up, becoming a toxic, acidic energy that sours you and can lead to health consequences. — Fatigue: Constantly giving is draining on your time, energy, finances, and other resources. You may stay up late and get up early to have enough time to give to others. — Money issues: Are you paying for everything? This is an unhealthy imbalance in your relationships. — Health issues: You may develop serious health concerns from your energy imbalances. These can range from skin problems (repressed anger) to weight gain (protecting yourself with body fat) to throat ailments (fear of speaking up) to breast issues (nursing everyone until you’re drained). If you have high self-esteem, you’ll choose relationships with nice people who won’t take advantage of you. However, most Earth Angels are drawn to unhappy people who need “fixing.” This gives them a sense of purpose. You might meet truly nice people, but not notice or be attracted to them because they’re already healed. So your heart beats faster when you meet unhappy or angry people, because they present a challenge. I can make him happy, you unconsciously decide. Other people can sense that you’re desperate for them to be happy. So they start to take advantage of you and depend upon you for their entertainment, support, and emotional well-being. And when they’re unhappy (which is most of the time, because only they can give happiness to themselves . . . and we’re all unhappy when we’re taking advantage of someone else, or looking outside of ourselves for happiness), they blame you! And you then blame yourself, and your light dims. Part of your life purpose is learning how to have healthy boundaries with others. It’s about loving people in a way that’s healthy, instead of “enabling” them. Excerpted from Doreen Virtue’s new book, “Assertiveness for Earth Angels: How to be Loving, Instead of ‘Too Nice’” available at bookstores worldwide, or for instant download at goo.gl/ZW1PZO
Posted on: Fri, 02 Jan 2015 23:19:54 +0000
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