As my siblings recall our mothers many good points, one thing that stands out is what a good wife she was, mashaAllah. When people hear good wife they might think submissive, meek, easily-controlled etc., and this is such a fallacy and so far from the truth. On the contrary, my mother was strong, reliable, active, and was always there for everyone. Every sadaqah drive, she was there, every event that needed hands (weddings, funerals, fundraisers, mosque activities etc), she was always there. She had her own life and worked for her Akhirah, but this was never at the expense of her marital and home life. She was a woman who controlled her tongue and only said goodly words. Her respect and love for my father was unmatched, and in turn, my father loved to listen to her, value her opinions, and treated her better than he would a queen. Their relationship was so beautiful that you couldnt tell where or who the goodness started or ended with mashaAllah. I always marvelled at the statement of Imam Ahmad when his wife passed away: Umm Salih (his wife) lived with me for twenty years and she and I did not argue at all. But today I marvel at something else... When my mother passed away, we were with her in the hospital, and my father stood next to her with the local Imam, family and friends. He stood there and said this magnificent statement that I will never forget in my life: Weve been married for 30-odd years and shes never said a word that upset me. You people are the witnesses of Allah on earth. Be witness that I am pleased with her. And everyone, including the Imam, just teared up. Charity started at home, and her beautiful & respectful relationship with my father and all of us simply spilled on to the larger community and internationally. See, you can never really have an impact on the world if your own home is in shambles, because ripples work outwards, never inwards. Rahimakillah hooyo (mother)...
Posted on: Mon, 31 Mar 2014 10:51:53 +0000
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