Assalamoalaikum, Courtesy: Tooba Umer. A good cross-relationship tip in this message: ******* My husband and I disagreed about something. I did what I have often done when I had a difference of opinion with someone… I called my Mum. Before I could even finish my sentence, she asked me if I had prayed about it yet. Before I could respond, she told me that she would not allow me to...call her and complain about my husband to her, nor would she allow me to discuss our arguments/disagreements with her. I was stunned. Then she said something that has stuck with me for a very long time: “My daughter, the thing is, because you love him the way you love him, when the argument is over it’s over... ...But, I don’t love him the way you love him, and it would be far too easy for me to pick up a grudge and carry it if I think he is wrong. You can’t do that to me, or to him. It simply isn’t fair.” So the next time you want to narrate the fight in your marriage to a third party ask yourself: 1. Did I ask Allah swt for help on this issue? 2. Do I love my spouse? 3. Does the person I’m reporting them to, love them the way I do? Will they easily forgive them the way I will? If not then don’t pass them on to be crucified. Your marriage is between you, your spouse and Allah. (*)No matter what problems youre going through, the solution for it lies with Allah. So turn towards Him - He will never let you down. The Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم said: “Let one of you ask his Lord for his every need, until he asks Him for salt, and asks Him for the strap of his sandal when it breaks.” [Tirmidhi]
Posted on: Fri, 14 Nov 2014 18:04:29 +0000
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