Biblical Dating/ Part 2 First Evaluate yourself spiritually, your trying to be or prepare to be a Godly spouse. Below are some self-evaluation questions: a. Are you a Christian? b. Are you a growing and mature Christian? c. Are you generally humble and teachable, and do you respect authority? d. Are you responsible and holy in the way you possess your own spirit, mind and body? e. Do you inspire to be a Godly husband or wife someday? What have you done and what are you doing to prepare for that ministry? f. Are you at a place in your life at which you are ready to marry? ***Dating is for the purpose of finding a marriage partner*** Once you decide that you are ready to date, look to Gods Word to decide the kind of person to date. Evaluate potential dating partner on chose criteria, rather than relying primarily on the worlds treatment of ideas like ATTRACTION & CHEMISTRY BUSY SINGLES pick potential dating partner with the eye toward Godly manhood and womanhood, that would make a good husband or wife. Define by those characteristics God esteems in his word not just by good looks. Men Initiate **Men initiate, women respond** Bliblical support for this is found among other passages in the creation order in: Genesis 2 1 Corinthians 11:7-9 Ephesians 5 These refer to marriage but it is wise and right to set pattern that will serve you well in marriage. ***Man initiate asking the woman out*** Initiation means Initiation. It means that you as the man take the first step, risk and all. Women Respond As it is mans God given role to initiate, so it is the womens God given role to respond. Her reponse maybe positive or negative. As single men need to learn how to lead, single women need to learn what it is to let a man assume spiritual leadership in the relationship and respond to that leadership. Accountability The initiating of a relationship under some accountability structure back in the day was man ask the womans father or family can he date her. The idea was to protect woman from potential hurt or awkwardness, to aid her in evaluating a man whom she might know or not know at the time of his initiation and to help ensure that the relationship was carried out honorably. Today is a different story. Many single women have fathers not involved in their lives at all, or not believers of indifferent to or unaware of the notion of protecting and sheparding their daughters and potential suitors in a dating context. The alternative could be a married couple within the womans or mans church community can help you when deciding to date. It mean that you explain to him that before you are willing to go out with him, he needs to meet the person or couple and discuss it with them or with the two of you. This is just a safety precaution that you have another person or persons help you evaluate the man or woman. If you dont desire that sort of protection or aid at least insist that the two of you begin to meet with others who know one or both of you well. So that there will be consistent accountability and an outside perspective on how the relationship is going. HUMBLE OPENESS TO ACCOUNTABILITY IS ESSENTIAL TO A GODLY RELATIONSHIP This should at least get your relationship started on broad principles. Part 3 Tommorrow Just Friends
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