Blog of the week: IT’S NOT YOU IT’S ME Grab their gift, smile and wave them goodbye! “It’s not you it’s me”, within a nanosecond we turn that statement around and make it all about us. Even if they don’t want you, it’s not about you it is about them not wanting you. But oh no we just can’t help ourselves and ask ‘WHY don’t they want me?’ our next moves are usually playing the self-pity party, abandonment, victim card and in some cases we turn into the stalker role, obsessing and contacting multiple times a day. Do you agree that you have the right to make your own choice when you don’t want something? If you do agree, then accept it when someone makes that call about you - that is their prerogative after all. Asking for more information will only have you running down the road of justification, where you try desperately to convince them that they must surely be wrong to not want you. When break ups occur the other party will explain why they no longer want to continue, this is the time to listen, accept and then, this is the big one - MOVE ON. You may not realise it but you have just been given an amazing gift of ………………………………….. The gift of TIME – Time spent in a relationship with someone who is not playing at 100% will never make you happy or progress the relationship to the next level and that time lost can never be regained. So count your blessings and be grateful for such a valuable gift. You should grab this person, hug them tightly then wave them goodbye calling out as they go ‘thank you for giving me the gift of time’ with a big smile on your face.
Posted on: Sun, 04 Aug 2013 22:20:07 +0000
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