Bro. Ed the Red here Family. Please listen up. I feel strongly lead by the Holy Spirit to Stress this Point! The Bible gives us as a Church Body specific guidelines to follow for handling any and all, issues within our church. No other method may ever be used without serious consequences, to our Church Body. Remember this! It doesnt matter who it is you have an issue with. They can be at the top of the ladder or down at the bottom. This is the method we are given By the Savior to use, and if we dont use it, we bring detriment upon ourselves, the one we have an issue with, and everyone attending our church! God says this: Do what I say, the way I say to do it, or suffer your own fate, at your own will! Praise God! How to deal with the trespasser: The following scripture is how Jesus taught for Christians to confront those brethren who have wronged them. Matthew 18:15 Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. 18:16 But if he will not hear you, take with you one or two more, that by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. 18:17 And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like a heathen and a tax collector. First, Go to your brother privately (Matt. 18:15). If a fellow Christian has sinned or brought an offense against you, Jesus said for you to first go to the offending party, confront him with the offense, and keep the matter private between yourselves. Remember, the objective is to not merely to seek justice for a violation against us, but to seek reconciliation with our brother, and his restoration to a right relationship with God. Why is the matter to be first kept private between you two? Because our love for our brother requires it. If we are sincerely committed to love for our brethren as Jesus commands (John 13:34), then even if a brother has sinned against us or has done us wrong, we will not want to maliciously injure that brothers credibility within the body — that might hinder his restoration. If this persons transgression against you is circulated within the body, but later he repents, many in the body will have already judged this brother and the accusations will have damaged their opinion of him. By spreading our accusation against an offending party, it builds a consensus against them and makes it difficult, if not nearly impossible, to restore that person to the body should they repent and desire to make things right. Also, many alleged trespasses between brethren are a result of misunderstandings. We need to first investigate the facts and find out for sure whether a trespass has really occurred. This is another reason why you are to first go privately to the brother or sister in question — to confront them with the alleged offense and hear their side of the story. If we disclose the offense to friends in the body, we may later discover that the matter was only a misunderstanding. But by then, their reputation will have been damaged by our allegations. Many people foolishly allow themselves to become offended by misinterpreting others intentions, or listening to rumors and secondhand information which always contain distortions or exaggerations. Many offenses could be immediately resolved by confronting the offending party and hearing their explanation. Youd be surprised how many people are so immature that they dont even bother to investigate the facts or hear the other side of the story. Dont ever forget, There are always two sides to a story, and never assume you know the truth of a matter until youve heard both sides. I can guarantee that there would be far fewer misunderstandings in the body of Christ if people would be firmly devoted to love for their brethren. Love for the brethren gives us a desire to believe the best in our brother, giving him the benefit of the doubt, instead of jumping to conclusions and always expecting the worst. The Bible says If you love someone... you will always believe in him, always expect the best of him (1 Cor. 13:7 TLB). If the trespass is proven valid, and he or she repents for their misdeed, you are to express your forgiveness (Luke 17:3-4). Let the matter be forever ended, and carry no resentment toward them. Remember, if they repent, but you continue to harbor bitterness, you too become a perpetrator of sin (Matt. 6:14-15, Acts 8:23, Eph. 4:31-32). Second, take another brother (Matt. 18:16). If your private attempt fails to resolve the issue, you are then to take one other Christian and again confront the offending party. The presence of another Christian is as a witness to strengthen the serious effect of confrontation, to collaborate the exhortation of scripture, to amplify the Lords presence in the meeting, and to verify the exchange of testimony. Third, tell Church leadership (Matt. 18:17). If the first and second attempts fail, Jesus said then to tell it to the church. This doesnt mean the entire church body, as this could cause unrest or damage the faith of young believers. The meaning is that the church pastors or elders are then to bear responsibility in dealing with the offending party. Finally, if these three prescribed attempts fail, we are no longer required to entreat them with the courtesies shown to brethren. They may be dealt with in the same fashion as we would a heathen or publican (Matt. 18:17). What to do if you trespass: If you are aware of any trespass you have committed against your brother, you have a responsibility to go to him and seek his forgiveness. Should you not attempt reconciliation, this will hinder your relationship with God. Your worship, your prayers and service to the Lord will not be acceptable. Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift (Matt. 5:23-24). Note that the scripture says if your brother has something against you. In other words, you might not feel that you have legitimately violated your brother or sister. But if you are aware that they harbor an offense against you, you still are obligated to go and try to resolve the issue. Be willing to be humble and submissive to others, even when you dont consider yourself to be at fault. Dont be so rigid and self-righteous that you stand in the way of a brother or sisters reconciliation with you or with God (Rom. 15:1-3). Offer your unpretentious, sincere apology for any unintentional offense and make every effort to reconcile, so that your relationship with God will not be hindered. Whether or not they pardon you, you have done your part and released your soul from blame. Blessed be the Believers in the Faith!
Posted on: Thu, 31 Oct 2013 04:23:07 +0000
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