CAN YOU RELATE?? Hi. Hoping you can post this on my behalf. I have a premmie, 20 months acrual - born at 29 weeks. When he first came home from hospital he slept in a cot besides me bed. He did move into a cot in his own room eventually and even slept through the night for periods of time but for months now - over winter mainly - hes been co-sleeping with us as he wont settle otherwise. Lately he has been going down in his cot on the occasional night however I cannot get any sleep from worry. I stay awake until I hear him cry and then get up to get him and fall asleep within minutes of bringing him back to my bed. When he is not in bed, everytime I shut my eyes I have nightmarish visions of bad things happening to him - to the point I get so upset I cry. I wake my husband who couldnt care less. He is asleep within minutes of his head hitting the pillow and makes it quite clear he thinks I am being pathetic. Even to the point of mentioning it in a mocking manner to my mum. Hes a itll be right kind of person and I get frustrated because he promises nothing will happen to our son, yet he doesnt know that. I dont think this whole premature thing has hit him like it hit me. But the thing is - it is just nighttime I am like this. He goes to daycare a couple of days a week, Im happy to leave him with my mum during the day or early evening, but at night I have become incredibly anxious. He has had previous sleepovers at my mums house but now I cannot imagine him being elsewhere to where I am overnight. I feel like the only way I can protect him is if he is with me. My husband stresses that we mustnt baby or smother him - and Im pretty good at not babying him, its just I dont know how to get these thoughts visions from my head. Im tired of staying awake waiting for him to wake so I can sleep, and Im sick of being made to feel pathetic by my husband for feeling like this. Has anyone else had similar problems? Or can anyone else offer any advice or kind words? I dont want to hear negativity, or comments about co-sleeping - Im just a tired and upset mum looking for support. Please note: We have a breathing and video monitor in place but I feel like our son sleeps too far away from us. (Its not a huge distance away, just down the hall, but there is no two bedrooms suitable enough for us to sleep next door to each other in.)
Posted on: Mon, 01 Sep 2014 15:17:15 +0000
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