Children require attention. If we do not give them positive attention they will seek negative attention through misbehaving. An important goal of parenting is to supply the attention needed to develop a healthy self-esteem. 90 percent of children misbehavior is for attention. Giving your child positive attention through praise and spending time with him or her, and denying a child attention from misconduct, will generally help to stop misbehavior. However, if a parent constantly has to cope with attention-getting behavior then ignoring it may not always be enough of a response. Being ignored may be the reason for the problem in the first place.It can be common or seem appropriate to scold, nag, or coax a misbehaving child, but this reinforces the child’s behavior you are seeking to stop. When parents remember that their child’s goal is to get attention (any attention), it is easy to see that scolding or nagging only encourages more misbehavior. In a child’s mind, the attention from an angry parent is better than no attention at all. If parents only notice their child’s mistakes the youngster will make mistakes for attention. Obviously, the best way to direct our children to good behavior is to catch them being good. For the child seeking attention, use the two “I’s” of discipline: Ignore the behavior when possible, giving the child positive attention during pleasant times, or Isolate the child by using “timeout”.......hmmmmm??? Not sure about the timeout stuff but you get the picture..............stay bless!!!
Posted on: Mon, 05 May 2014 08:00:11 +0000
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