Coaches, Leaders, Trainers ... We are so much better off if we think of working with a You step, I step arent we? If we use this approach, we can learn where people are in the stages of change instead of trying to save everyone. I find it useful to suggest a few action steps and then let them come back to me before I will invest in holding them accountable. My approach is first you step...then I step. Because if they arent truly ready anything more hurts us both, It drains your energy and it pushes them further into retreat. They are in a miserable but safe place. And familiar pain is preferable over unfamiliar pain...nothing I can do will change that. This is where its so valuable to learn how to speak and breathe life into others. When someone starts to shift but they still arent ready, they will say things like they are waiting for life to level out - this just means they have not hit a point of disgust to make a decision yet. Again, words have power here, but not action items, just belief and vision. All the coaching in the world cannot help someone until they are ready. I have learned to invest in those that I can help and love on the rest by learning to speak life!
Posted on: Tue, 26 Aug 2014 13:47:07 +0000
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