Count this as another example of me being public with my life, but this might be the best text conversation Ive ever had with my son, and probably the most illustrative enneagram dialogue Ive ever had with anyone. For context: my son is a 7, so he is all about fun and doesnt like to get too deep about things, though he is at his best when he uses his (very sharp) mind. Im an 8, which means I take charge, am rarely anxious, and often dont recognize the strength of my reactions to things, but at my best I lend courage to others and help them. So my son was away for a few hours, but I owed him an apology and sent a text. Me: Im sorry I was too harsh with you earlier; I know you were just excited. I was involved in something that is important to me, but not as important as you. I hope you will forgive me. My son: I forgive you. Me: Thank you. My son: Dad, I love you but sometimes you are very intimidating. Please try not to be... Generally you are nice, though. ;) Me: I know. I do try--it isnt always easy to prevent when it is part of your personality. Its kind of like telling you to be more organized or do your chores before you have fun. Its hard, but you have to figure it out. My son: Im sorry for distracting you. Im also sorry if I hurt your feelings with the intimidation comment. Me: No, you dont have to be sorry about that. Maybe for being a little too persistent, but... :) My feelings arent hurt. I know Im like that sometimes. Just know that I am not that way on purpose and that Im always on your side. My son: OK Dad, you make me feel safer everywhere I go with you, and I am very happy that I am your son, and I would like it if we didnt continue this conversation anymore because it is not helping my funny bone be more funny. :) Me: Thank you for saying so. I know it is not easy to talk about serious things sometimes, but it is important to do so on occasion. Have fun--see you in a little while.
Posted on: Wed, 13 Aug 2014 01:13:09 +0000